Sunday 30 June 2019

Cafe Rouge Groupon review.

Hey readers,

The other day I treated my husband to a meal out to Cafe Rouge in Coventry. If you haven't heard of Cafe Rouge it is a chain of French bistro and they have 70 restaurants in the UK. 


I also need to mention that I love a good old bargain so took the chance and brought a 3-course meal for two from Groupon for £23.00 which saved me 60% of my meal, yes, please! 

**Just to be clear this is not an AD, I just love a bargain and thought people might find this helpful.**

The menu includes:

Starters: French onion soup | garlic mushrooms | pea and mint tortelloni | breaded whitebait | breaded camembert.

Mains: poulet Breton | Moules marinière | steak and frites | duck confit | Leffe beer battered fish | summer salad with chicken | Croque Monsieur | pea and asparagus risotto | boeuf bourguignon | omelette | chargrilled chicken burger | black Angus burger.

Desserts: beignets | chocolate tarte | crème brûlée | tarte au citron | ice cream.

Also, note that you have a link after purchasing the coupon from Groupon that directs you to the Cafe Rouge website. It is important for you to book the table with a time that suits you.

Review of the restaurant. 

We arrived at Cafe Rouge at 12.30 on a Monday so luckily fairly quiet. We were quickly greeted by a member of staff who told us to chose any table we wanted, we went for the table near the window as we are nosey, like people watching hehe. 

We were asked for drinks - now here are the catch drinks aren't included. However, we ordered anyway as I was parched. Hubby ordered a flat white coffee and me a standard diet coke.

Hubby thought the coffee was really good quality and had lovely art decoration on top. 

Next, we ordered food and started with our start. I ordered garlic mushrooms on sour toast whilst my husband ordered breaded whitebait (which game with mayonnaise to dunk the fish in). 


We didn't have to wait for ages (though I don't mind as we didn't have kids so we could actually have an adult conversation).

The food tasted fresh and really good flavours.

The waitress cleared our plates and was super friendly and helpful. She then took got our next meal the main. 

I had a black Angus burger with fries whilst hubby had muscles and fries. Oh, my word people, myself and hubby assumed he would get a small dish of muscles however it was a massive dish of muscles (as you can tell from the photo below). 


Again, the food was fresh, though I didn't like the smokey flavour fo the burger, that is just my taste. One downfall with the fries is they did taste a bit undercooked for my liking as I like the centre of a chip soft fluffy. But can't really fault it because of the meal.

Soon the waitress took the plates away which we didn't have to ages like some places. We then asked for the dessert menu and I chose the chocolate tarte whilst husband picked the crème brûlée.
My chocolate tarte was beautiful, dark not too sweet and the cherry morello coulis really complimented the chocolate flavour. 

Husband really liked his crème brûlée though cold (but this might the norm in France) but he really enjoyed the taste and texture. He was a bit sad that it didn't crack when breaking the top.

The waitress got our receipt and we paid the extras for our meal. 

Overall, cant thought it and a fab deal via Groupon. Staff were friendly, polite and did a really good job of service. 

The place its self was clean, the staff kept on top of the tables so there weren't leftover plates from previous customers. The ambience was relaxed, the music was chilled and overall an excellent experience. 

Would I recommend getting a Groupon voucher? yes, I would but the only thing I would highlight is to make sure you clear in what you're getting and be mindful that drinks aren't included in the menu.

Cheers for reading X 

My Sunday photo 30/06/2019

Friday 28 June 2019


Hey readers, 

My word of the week is:

This week has been very much a mixed bag of emotions. I have had some good and some hard times. I treated my hubby to a meal at Cafe Rouge on Monday whilst the kids were at school. Which was lovely, as it was more relaxed and we could actually talk. 

My eldest this week moved up to stage 7 which I am really proud because some of the stuff with coordination is really difficult.  

Both my boys did really well on Friday with sports day and my youngest got first in the 20m and my eldest got second in the xxx metres. 

I have been struggling with my obsessive thoughts which have caused me to have quite a bad meltdown. I really struggle with the social aspects of things, I just remind me of childhood and I guess also upsets me.

I won't leave this post on a negative point because I feel guilty for sharing my thoughts. So, at the weekend the sun was out and we had a lovely picnic in the park and the boys loved having a runaround. 

Hope you have had a good week. 

Cheers for reading X 

Wednesday 26 June 2019

How not to lose your sh*t during Summer holidays

Hey readers,

It soon fast approaching the summer holidays where my boys have no school for SIX WEEKS, eek! Now, as much as I love spending quality time with my boys it can be hard work and be exhausting to keep them entertained and deal with the bickering/ boredom that occurs when during this period.

So how do you manage to keep your cool and not lose it?

Well, I  think one technique for me is to walk away and have my time out in the bedroom. I need quiet time as an introvert and space are important to me. Luckily I have a supportive husband who takes care of the little darlings and vice versa as well. I think you can feel guilty for not permanently wanting to look after your children yourself but I have learned that it is much more important to have time out away from the carnage. 

It makes the family home a much calmer environment.


I feel getting outside can help, breathing in the fresh air especially if you are like me and not in a position to have a garden. I take my boys out locally and get them to scoot about. This helps burn some energy and it is fairly simple to do. 

Alternatively, hitting the park for a picnic is a great way to have a day out and enjoy the outdoors.

On the other hand, it is ok to have chilled times at home and whack the babysitter tv on. I have a motto you do what you can in a situation and sometimes we all need to just relax in front of the old familiar place. Previously, I used to feel so guilty about putting the TV on but not anymore, I am thankful for it.

 It has saved my sanity and it is good to relax and not do a lot. That is what a holiday is for right? It is also ok not to be busy 24/7 as much as Instagram would like to tell us. It is much better to be relaxed and just enjoy the time, it is ok to simply do nothing. It is ok to allow your child to rest, remember they have worked hard all year at school, it is time for a break.

Don't always try to find things for your kids when you are bored. I know for a long time I felt I had to instantly deal with the dreaded statement, "I am bored" but do you know what it is good for kids to get bored. This time when your children are under-stimulated is a life lesson on trying to find ways to deal with the problems and enhance their creative skills.

It is ok for parents to let their hair down when children are around. I know shocking right but is not healthy constantly having to deal with the requests of the children. Sometimes you have to give your children that independence to learn to make decisions about their problems.

Cheers for reading X

Tuesday 25 June 2019

Why it is good to date in your 40's and 50's. **AD**

Hey readers,

Being in your 40's can be an exciting time especially when you are participating in the dating game. Why you ask?... well let me tell you why. 

First off dating an older person in their 40's or 50's is a much more mature event compared to say a person dating in their 20's. This is because they have a lived a bit more and have a more mature outlook on life. The chances are they are more experienced and can treat you better.

As your older, you have achieved things that you don't have to worry about when you are older so less pressure such as having children. 

The likelihood is the individual will have older children, therefore, won't have to worry about childcare etc.

 So, there is not that pressure to get married or have children, therefore, dating when you are older is a much more relaxed affair. 

With age comes more awareness of who you are and gives you the confidence to be the person you want to be.

 You know what you want when it comes to doing dating and you know the kind of person you want to take on a date. An older person is more reliable in what you say because you have that confidence in themselves which again is something that is developed with age. 

Some people assume that older people give up once they reach an older age but that is not the case as websites based on over 40 dating
sites out there on the internet. Therefore this clearly demonstrates that there is a market for the older individual looking to date. 

The times have changed in this modern world where it was once deemed standard to date, settle down and have children in your 20's and that was for life then.
 Not any more as there is a lot of people aged 40's -50's who are wanted to date similar people like themselves. There are mnay reasons why people are separated in there 40s and 50s and they want a second go at the dating game and why not I say, life is about having fun after all. 

With age comes experience and that means that the individuals dating at an older age have already made mistakes and learnt from them. Plus with all trial and error situations, you learn what is right and what is not right for you so then again comes confidence in what you are doing. There is nothing more attractive than meeting someone who is confident and a person that you can rely on.

Dating when you are older could mean that you have the financial freedom to enjoy going out to restaurants and getaways. This, therefore, allows you that change to have a good time without worrying about how you are going to pay for it. 

I think the best tip for when you start dating is to smile, look interested and ask lots of questions. This gives the other person a sense that you like them and are interested in what they have to say. 

If you're in your 40's or 50's then a website to check out would be
where you can meet like-minded individuals like yourself. 

Cheers for reading X 

This is a sponsored post for All opinions expressed are entirely my own. 

Sunday 23 June 2019

I hate camping

Hey readers,

As the title of this blog post suggests I HATE CAMPING! I had the recent experience of camping again and finally, that will be the last ever camp again. I detest it for so many reasons but one it takes so long to put up the tent, We had an 8 person tent so took roughly 2-3 hours and with young children around that is not what I deem as fun.

Even before setting up a camp it is bloody hard work with spending a ton on all the things you need like bottles of gas, food and all the other equipment. Then you have to try and squeeze it all in your blinking car.

Getting back to the tend its self there is the fact you don't get a good night sleep. You end up having your children with you. They constantly moving about and if that weren't bad enough they stick their feet in your face.

Then there is the sleeping bag and literally, have to sip up and jump up and down to get in a comfy position. If that is not bad late at night you have to decide do you want to get out of your warm cocoon or do you want a wee. 

The choices are hard! if you do opt for the toilet you then decide is it worth walking up half a mile to the communal toilets or shall I take a leak next to the tent in the freezing cold. 

The latter brings the risk of the change of someone seeing your bare ass. Finally, after you have dealt with that trauma you have to zip back up again and jump up and down. Changes are you wake up your little darlings doing this and then guess what they need a pee. *sigh*.

Another point regarding the sleeping situation is the fact that the ground is bumpy and you feel dirty all the time.  It doesn't matter if you have used a shower, you never clean and you walk back from the nice warm water to a dirty and muddy tent.

The next morning you wake at the crack of Dawn because the light brightens up all the room and the little darlings think it is fun to jump around the tent. Whilst this is all happening you are cursing and getting more and more homesick and you don't even care about the prospect of washing at this point.

Especially in the summer if you dare leave the tend door unzipped then you risk a gang of flies to enter. You are constantly bitten by all the bugs and it leaves you with months of marks all on your leg. I still have them marks after a year of previous camping have and it resembles someone who is a crackhead.

After two days of staying in a tend you have grass everywhere and appears in your food somehow. My god the food taste rank and it such a ball ache to still on the ground and fiddle about preparing food on a camping stove. It is lukewarm and depressing especially when it is p*ssing it down.
As time progresses you sleep deteriorates as so does your mood and you finally glad when the day comes when it is time to go home. 

Only to be greeted with the perspective of trying to put down the tent and making sure it all fits tightly together in its holders. Which incidentally never does on the first go, try the fifth in which your hot mess and in a bad mood. But that is fine because you then can rest on the drive home with two tired and ratty children.

But the time we eventually come when you get home and you have the pleasure of dealing with the endless pile of stinky, muddy washing.

Everything with tending just feels like a chore. It doesn't feel like a holiday and yes you save money but personally, I would prefer to be in bed at home in the warmth eating hot food.

Cheers for reading X

My Sunday photo 23/06/2019

Saturday 22 June 2019

Free Beauty Samples Are Perfect For The Holidays! **AD**

Freebie fans all know that receiving freebies is great regardless of what time of the year it is, but over summer these beauty freebies will become even more useful.

Even the smallest of the free samples are handy to take on a holiday. Here are a few reasons why:

1. Free Samples save Weight and Space in Your Suitcase

The perfume samples are probably the most useful to take on a holiday as they are lightweight and compact. Taking your favourite perfumes on a flight is risky as the bottle could accidentally break while in transit or go off due to the altitude or high heat. In addition, this is the perfect time for you to experiment with new fragrances. The alluring perfume adverts always advertise that their fragrances are either suitable for “day” wear or “night” wear, but to be honest not all of us are able to afford to have specific fragrances to match up to specific times in a day.

Taking perfume samples with you is a convenient way to make sure you smell great throughout your holiday. In fact, the postcard version is just about weightless and the foil helps to ensure the freshness of the fragrance. They are also small enough to store in your hand luggage or handbag for easy top-ups. This makes these free samples the perfect solution to save more space so you can take along more of your favourite holiday outfits.

2. Free Samples Can Help You to Avoid Baggage Charges

Taking along every full-size beauty product on your holiday will take up space that is valuable in your luggage. Replacing the regular sized products with samples could even mean you only need to take hand-luggage. When you travel light you won't have to pay for baggage fees, which is a definite win-win situation.

Keep in mind that many of the skincare freebie samples come in the 30ml travel-sizes or sachets, which meets up to the “100ml or less” rule when it comes to liquids. These samples are also easy to store in a small plastic bag which means you won't have to worry about decanting your beauty and skincare essentials into the travel size bottles, saving you both money and time.

3. Freebies Will Save You Money on Miniatures

It is really ridiculous how many of the well-known beauty brands charge such a high price tag to put their products into miniature bottles. Clever advertising and marketing may trick you into thinking you are saving money and traveling lighter, yet these cute miniatures which are found at most of the beauty counters are made to catch shoppers out when they are in hurry to finish those last-minute purchases for their holiday.

If your freebies include many sachets of the same product you may want to think about pouring them out into a mini jar. You can turn all those samples into a single neat freebie.

Top Hint: Hold onto those “7-day supply” skincare freebies. These are perfect when it comes to knowing how long the freebie is going to last while you are away.

4. They Will Keep Your Beach and Make-Up Bag Light

You may have never thought about claiming those foundation freebie samples, yet they are really handy for holidays. When you are packing a make-up bag for your holiday, a 1-week supply can free up tons of space so you can take with other products to make your holiday even more special such as lip glosses, and bronzers.

When you are on holiday, you will probably need to pack other skincare essentials such as after-sun. This could mean lugging around a lot more bottles, but free samples can really help with this. For example, not long ago I received a few free E45 skincare samples, which helped to keep my bag for the beach a lot lighter.

5. Safeguard Your Favourite Beauty Products

There is not much worse or heart-breaking than taking all your best beauty products on a trip abroad and they end up lost, spoilt or broken while you are away. The heat is known for spoiling perfumes, melting products or even separating liquid-based make-up. For this reason, it is always a better idea to leave anything expensive or valuable at home.

Free samples will often come in a tube or sachets which are made for travelling. You can also discard them before you come home, which frees up more space in your suitcase for gifts.

So before you rush into using your freebies or even throwing them away, keep in mind how handy these samples can be for your next holiday.
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Thursday 20 June 2019


Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

because this week has been challenging with my eldest as he has been really aggressive. Found out he has been bullied because he has long hair (his choice). But we all know how cruel kids can be about the slightest difference. So, that is one trigger and having change effects my eldest now a lot. We had visits round which takes it out on him especially with the change of routine. 

In other news, we have an appointment for the 3rd to see the psychologist who has been doing some observations so find out if my son can get an assessment for autism. I hope so because we have spent the last 3 years trying to fight for one. He is slowly starting to display characteristics, so only time will tell what will happen with that. 

We went to Legoland on Wednesday as it was a teachers training day so grabbed the opportunity to go when it is quiet, which it was and so much better for both me and my son. 

My youngest has made great improvements to his swimming and he should be moving up a level. On Friday it will be his first sports day. He will be so happy to participate as the last two years he has watched his brother from afar. 

So, yeah overall mixed bag of affairs as life normally is. 

Hope you have a good week. 

Cheers for reading X

Tuesday 18 June 2019

Ways to enjoy the sun safely

Hey readers, 

It is really important to be mindful when being out in the sunshine during the hot seasons. Here are some handy tips to help keep you enjoying the sun but being safe at the same time. 

1.  Shade. 

It is important to make sure that you don't stay long periods in the sunshine as you can feel ill after awhile with headaches and the potential risk to heat stroke. One way to help combat the reduction in exposure to the sunshine is to find places that have shade, therefore, you can still enjoy the sun and even nip and out but you are being safe at the same. 

2. Drink plenty. 

Being in the sunshine can cause dehydration so itis important to drink often to keep you well and reduce the risk of not feeling good with headaches and feeling dizzy for example. 

3. Sun protection. 

By wearing hats particularly wide rimmed ones and sunglasses can protect you from the sun's harmful rays.  Also with an extra inch of rim added to your hat can reduce skin cancer by 10%. Wearing sunglasses will stop you from squinting in the sun.

4. Sunscreen Lotion.

Sunscreen lotion is so important when you are out in the sun because it acts as a barrier from harmful sun rays which can cause sunburn and skin cancer You should be getting SPF 30 at least and also select broad-spectrum or full-spectrum to protect you from both UNA and UVB rays.

5. Clothing. 

You should consider wearing light coloured fabrics as light clothing reflects light and dark coloured clothing absorbs it, therefore, more absorbed clothing will make you feel hot and that in yourself will make you feel uncomfortable. Light clothing is much softer and cooler to wear making being out in the sun a much more enjoyable affair. 

6. Peak hours. 

The best advice is to avoid being in the sun peak hours as this will be the hottest and most uncomfortable. Look at the weather forecast to see the temperatures and maybe go out in the morning or the evening when it is much cooler and comfortable to be in the sunshine. 

7. Location. 

If you know where you are going beforehand check out if there are any shady areas on google maps or the website to plan out the way to go to incorporate shady areas. 

Have you any tips to stay safe in the sunshine? I love to hear your thoughts in the comment section. 

Cheers for reading X 

Sunday 16 June 2019

9 free things you can do with the family in the summer

Hey readers,

Summer holidays are almost approaching and for some, it can be a daunting time as it can be quiet expensive. Do not fear as I bring you my top 9 things to do with the family during the summer that are free.

1. Local parks. 

Have a look around the area you live in and there will most likely be a park. I don't know about your children but my boys love the park. It is a great way to get some fresh air which in turn means they also get a better night sleep. What else you can do when visiting the park is to pack a little picnic making the day out longer.

2. Museums. 

Where I live we have a couple of free museums which means a great day out. One is cars and the other is art based both fab and a great way to learn about your local history.

 Be mindful though that there are events within the museum that are not free and do come with a price tag so also check beforehand if they are free or not.

3. Geocaching.

Geocaching is a free app and it basically is kind of like hide and seek where you look on the app at the map to locate a cache and go hunt for it. It is normally something small like a pencil and you can replace it and log it on the app. It is a fun activity that all the family can do plus a great way to get exercising in.

4. Library. 

Libraries are amazing places for children not only are they free to join and take out books and audiobooks but there are things on for children to join in. With rthme time for younger children to be introduced to the idea of books through songs and stories. There is story time. Coding activities for the older child. Not to mention the summer reading challenge that is nationwide. It involved a  six-week reading challenge where you sign up at your local library to join. The aim of the challenge is to read 6 books during the summer holiday. If you achieve the reading challenge you will be rewarded with a certificate and medal for your achievement.

5. Swimming. 

Check out your local swim baths as during the summer some swimming centres offer free swim lessons. This is because it is a great opportunity for swim teachers to learn and children get free opportunity to enhance their swimming skills. 

7. Go to a pet store. 

A fun thing to do for free is going to your local pet store and see the rabbits and fish. Check out Pets at Home as they offer petting sessions and educational events that are free and run throughout the summer. 

8. Woods.

If you go to woods they are free and they have fun nature trails plus if you download a nature checklist of Pinterest is an additional element of fun for the kids to enjoy. 

9. Local festivals.

A good website to check out is the website of the place where you live in as it will give you important information about what is on and local free festivals you can attend. 

What places do you like to go that are free with the family? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.

Cheers for reading X

My Sunday photo 16/06/2019

Saturday 15 June 2019

How to be safe when dating in the BDSM community. **AD**

Hey readers, 

People have different tastes some enjoy traditional dating whilst others prefer more niche desires such as have certain fetishes like entering dominant and submissive relationships. 

This absolutely fine if both people agree and respect each other's wishes. On this post today I shall be discussing ways to be safe whilst dating a niche market on fetish dating.

1. Communication. 

 First port of call is to have communication between one another, knowing what each other wants and also where there is a line that draws where no means no. It is important to listen to one and other by showing respect to the decisions that a person has made. 

2.  Safe words. 

A suggestion that might be helpful is to use safe words that you both agree on should you need to use them and the person it is nothing and that they want to stop. Having that trust between one enough is important because it allows the individual to relax and enjoy themselves without the fear that something bad is going to happen. 

3. Take your time. 

Take it slow when you start dating someone new when it comes to dominant and submissive relationships. You need to get to know one another and also relax in each others company. That is key to making it a successful relationship so bother are happy and can both get pleasure without fear that something bad is going to happen. 

4. Limits. 

Limits are crucial because we all have them. Being clear to the person you are dating that this is soft limits where it is not concrete
that there is flexibility and may change over time. 
Hard limits are simply a no go area where you do not want to explore or be forced to do that makes you uncomfortable or not enjoy. Again it is going back to the communication and setting them clear batteries so each person knows exactly what they want.

5. Check-ins. 

I think check-ins are something that should be kept constant making sure that the individual giving something out is making sure that the other person is happy with the situation. Again it reinforced the idea of communication and making sure that the individual that is giving out knows where the person is happy, in pain or numb that they want to stop or change it some way.  

6. Physical.

It is also important to be aware of physical signs if the person doesn't look good in the sense that they are going to be sick or feel dizzy or into much pain. Then this is the time to stop and check everything is alright. 

7.  Gag. 

Gag safety can be hard to communicate verbally with safe words. So, something different would have to take its place when the individual is being gagged needs to let the other person know when it is too much for them. Some people wear something on the wrist that can make a sound when they jiggle it so that allows the individual given out the punishment to be alerted that the individual has had too much and they want it to stop. Alternatively using the three methods where three grunts or holding three fingers is a signal for the other person to stop now. 

There are plenty of good and trusted dating sites to check out such as to meet similar like minded people.  

Cheers for reading X 

This is a sponsored post for subs-and-doms. All opinions expressed are entirely my own.

Friday 14 June 2019


Hey readers,

My word of the week is:

because I feel like some weeks where not much has happened but the sense of paddling on. 

I know for a fact that this will change as it won't be long before the final count down to end of the term. 

Therefore meaning that things go manic and my brain gets overloaded with trying to remember all the information with going sports day, ceremonies, etc.

In other news related to paddling is Ryton Pools which my eldest has been waiting all year to go as he knew from last year 2's went and paddled which he absolutely can't wait to try. 

You see last summer we went on a family peddle boat me, husband and the two kids and since then he has been desperate to do it himself. Well that day has finally arrived and he was so happy, bless him. 

My youngest has been coming home and repeatedly telling me how to say 1,2,3 in Spanish. I am pretty sure I didn't do that when I was at school when I was his age, oh how times have changed. 

So, overall my week has been relaxed which  I would moan about as I like the calmness that it brings. 

Hope you have had a good week. 

Cheers for reading X 

Thursday 13 June 2019

Older dating why not?! **AD**

Hey readers,

Just because you are in your 50's doesn't mean you have passed your sell-by date. In actual fact, many over the 50's are living their best lives. Some are single and ready to mingle for whatever reason one thing is for sure that there are many 50-year-old people wanted to hook up with like-minded people.

In this modern world that we live in, there are many different types of dating that people choose and not always going onto long term relationships.

It is fair to say that some people simply just want a bit of fun with a like-minded person and why not because life is worth having a bit of fun.

 A great site is and it does what it says on the tin. If you're looking for like-minded over 50's or even '60s and '70s then you need to check out this site.

 You can find people close by to where you live and can check out the map to hook up with someone. You never know where it might lead. Another good point to add is this website is a great stepping stone if you haven't been in the dating game for many years it is great opportunity to meet like-minded people who are looking for similar desires to yourself. 

Alternatively, you may look for one-off connections where you can meet people who are also simply just looking for one night stands. This website one night stands is a fab niche place to dip your toes into and explore like-minded people. 

At the end of the day, you don't have to commit to anything. You can simply just check out what is available and if you like someone then it is a winner. 

We live in a modern world now and life isn't always about long term relationships sometimes people just want some sexual pleasure with another person who has the kind of needs. 

There are some women who deem themselves as cougars where they like to meet younger men because that is what suits your lifestyle.

 Cougars don't need to rely on the money they simply just want to have a good time and there is a place for them. Cougar dating is a fine example of a safe place for certain women of age to meet men who desire a strong and liberal type women to have a good time together.

 They both get their needs met and you know what that is ok as long no one is getting hurt. 

However, when it comes to cougar sites it is not just younger men no older men to desire cougars so there are so much variety and choice at the fingers of the buttons. 

There are no rules when it comes to who and who you shelf date. People have different needs hence why there is many a type of dating preferences.

As I have outlined some above to show that variety really is the spice of life and though you may be older in age there is still an opportunity to have fun in life. 

Cheers for reading X 

This is a sponsored post for All opinions expressed are entirely my own.

Wednesday 12 June 2019

15 struggles of an introvert

Hey readers, 

I am an introvert and there are many times I have struggled with being an introvert so here are 15 reasons that introvert is a real struggle at times.

1) This may sound strange but when it comes to loneliness people often assume people need to reach out to others to find comfort. However, for me as an introvert, I find that I feel more lonely when in social situations than when you are by yourself.

2) I know that when I spend time with other people it takes a lot of mental energy from me and I feel afterward completely mentally exhausting at times. Whereas my husbands thrive of people that engagement where I just feel the total opposite. 

3) As an introvert one of my biggest phobias is having to answer the house phone or take calls. I am the type of person to let the phone ring to answer the phone so I know who it is and then I will answer if I am feeling comfortable doing so. 

4) My home is a flat which I need to use a lift and the worst part of this situation is having to be stuck in a lift with a really chatty person and it can take a couple of minutes to get to the ground floor and it feels like an eternity for me. 

5) People think your mysterious or got some special personality because you don't talk to people. However, I don't, I am just not a very people person. 

6) My worst fear is having to take part in icebreaker activities, I hate them and for me, it feels like torture. I would much prefer to be kicked continuously in the stomach, I can deal with physical pain no problem but communication is not something I am good at especially when it is forced. 

7) Thank goodness for self serve as I am really awkward when having to face a supermarket till assistant and they start getting into a chit chat. 

8) I don't do small talk, it is not my specialist subject. 

9) Having a mad panic before a social event before and after. Rehearsing what I am going to say or did I say something or not something when I should of.  

10) I get angry when people interfere with my me time as this is the time I need to build back up my energy to deal with people.

11) People often assume that I am rude when I don't talk but probably more likely that I am absolutely petrified of knowing what to say or if I am doing it right and over analysing every little bit of detail.

12) The relief you get when you shut the front door at the end of the day and you don't have to worry about what you have to say as your in your safe place and you can just be you. 

13) Communication does not come naturally to me and often I get confused by the social rules in what I should or should not be doing. 

14) I seem to have this habit, not unintentionally but attracting awkward situations even though I  hate because I don't know what I am meant to do it still frequently happens

15) After social interactions, you need time by yourself to build up back your energy from the work of interacting with others 

Are you an introvert? Do you recognize this introvert struggles? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section. 

Cheers for reading X