15 struggles of an introvert

Hey readers, 

I am an introvert and there are many times I have struggled with being an introvert so here are 15 reasons that introvert is a real struggle at times.

1) This may sound strange but when it comes to loneliness people often assume people need to reach out to others to find comfort. However, for me as an introvert, I find that I feel more lonely when in social situations than when you are by yourself.

2) I know that when I spend time with other people it takes a lot of mental energy from me and I feel afterward completely mentally exhausting at times. Whereas my husbands thrive of people that engagement where I just feel the total opposite. 

3) As an introvert one of my biggest phobias is having to answer the house phone or take calls. I am the type of person to let the phone ring to answer the phone so I know who it is and then I will answer if I am feeling comfortable doing so. 

4) My home is a flat which I need to use a lift and the worst part of this situation is having to be stuck in a lift with a really chatty person and it can take a couple of minutes to get to the ground floor and it feels like an eternity for me. 

5) People think your mysterious or got some special personality because you don't talk to people. However, I don't, I am just not a very people person. 

6) My worst fear is having to take part in icebreaker activities, I hate them and for me, it feels like torture. I would much prefer to be kicked continuously in the stomach, I can deal with physical pain no problem but communication is not something I am good at especially when it is forced. 

7) Thank goodness for self serve as I am really awkward when having to face a supermarket till assistant and they start getting into a chit chat. 

8) I don't do small talk, it is not my specialist subject. 

9) Having a mad panic before a social event before and after. Rehearsing what I am going to say or did I say something or not something when I should of.  

10) I get angry when people interfere with my me time as this is the time I need to build back up my energy to deal with people.

11) People often assume that I am rude when I don't talk but probably more likely that I am absolutely petrified of knowing what to say or if I am doing it right and over analysing every little bit of detail.

12) The relief you get when you shut the front door at the end of the day and you don't have to worry about what you have to say as your in your safe place and you can just be you. 

13) Communication does not come naturally to me and often I get confused by the social rules in what I should or should not be doing. 

14) I seem to have this habit, not unintentionally but attracting awkward situations even though I  hate because I don't know what I am meant to do it still frequently happens

15) After social interactions, you need time by yourself to build up back your energy from the work of interacting with others 

Are you an introvert? Do you recognize this introvert struggles? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section. 

Cheers for reading X 


  1. I'm an introvert too and most of the time I am happy to be like this but I can relate to these struggles.
    Only the other day I spent a good hour gearing myself up to make a couple of phone calls then had to leave a message and spent the next few hours stressing about them ringing me back.x

  2. I'm an introvert, too, and while I can be social when I want to, I always need the alone time afterward to restore my energy.

  3. Great post! I'm not an introvert but I do recognise several of your points - i think most of us are mixed & can relate....

  4. It is a great thing to know you are what you are, and what works for you. #ThatFridayLinky

  5. I can absolutely identify with this. I have always had difficulty when being around my husband's family because they are the type of people who love to sit in each other's company all day long talking to each other and I find it exhausting. I am always looking for an escape, just to get some time to myself! #abitofeverything

  6. I do identify with most of these, especially the first few, and the one about shutting your door and being home so you can be yourself. But over the years I've found things like Ice breakers help me interact because they give more of a structure to it. Being told what to do or talk about is much easier than trying to work out what to say yourself. And being involved in an activity encourages me to interact with the group as we work things out. Of course, I'd be more comfortable doing it on my own, but sometimes I actually like being forced out of my comfort zone, and the more I embrace it, the more friends I have made. But I don't make friends easy and I much prefer my own company. So, I am an introvert but I'm like a tortoise that also enjoys coming out of her shell occasionally. (I may have to rest afterwards though.)

  7. As an introvert myself I can relate to some of these but some of these also sound like a combination of being an introvert and social anxiety. That's just the amateur Psychologist in me talking though. I'm no expert so don't go by me lol! But some of these I can definitely relate with. #abitofeverything