Saturday, 15 June 2019

How to be safe when dating in the BDSM community. **AD**

Hey readers, 

People have different tastes some enjoy traditional dating whilst others prefer more niche desires such as have certain fetishes like entering dominant and submissive relationships. 

This absolutely fine if both people agree and respect each other's wishes. On this post today I shall be discussing ways to be safe whilst dating a niche market on fetish dating.



1. Communication. 

 First port of call is to have communication between one another, knowing what each other wants and also where there is a line that draws where no means no. It is important to listen to one and other by showing respect to the decisions that a person has made. 

2.  Safe words. 

A suggestion that might be helpful is to use safe words that you both agree on should you need to use them and the person it is nothing and that they want to stop. Having that trust between one enough is important because it allows the individual to relax and enjoy themselves without the fear that something bad is going to happen. 

3. Take your time. 

Take it slow when you start dating someone new when it comes to dominant and submissive relationships. You need to get to know one another and also relax in each others company. That is key to making it a successful relationship so bother are happy and can both get pleasure without fear that something bad is going to happen. 

4. Limits. 

Limits are crucial because we all have them. Being clear to the person you are dating that this is soft limits where it is not concrete
that there is flexibility and may change over time. 
Hard limits are simply a no go area where you do not want to explore or be forced to do that makes you uncomfortable or not enjoy. Again it is going back to the communication and setting them clear batteries so each person knows exactly what they want.

5. Check-ins. 

I think check-ins are something that should be kept constant making sure that the individual giving something out is making sure that the other person is happy with the situation. Again it reinforced the idea of communication and making sure that the individual that is giving out knows where the person is happy, in pain or numb that they want to stop or change it some way.  

6. Physical.

It is also important to be aware of physical signs if the person doesn't look good in the sense that they are going to be sick or feel dizzy or into much pain. Then this is the time to stop and check everything is alright. 

7.  Gag. 

Gag safety can be hard to communicate verbally with safe words. So, something different would have to take its place when the individual is being gagged needs to let the other person know when it is too much for them. Some people wear something on the wrist that can make a sound when they jiggle it so that allows the individual given out the punishment to be alerted that the individual has had too much and they want it to stop. Alternatively using the three methods where three grunts or holding three fingers is a signal for the other person to stop now. 

There are plenty of good and trusted dating sites to check out such as subs-and-doms.com to meet similar like minded people.  

Cheers for reading X 

This is a sponsored post for subs-and-doms. All opinions expressed are entirely my own.

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