How to get over being ghosted.

Hey readers, 

Being ignored, whether it's by a friend or a romantic interest, being ghosted always hurts.

 If your calls and texts start going unanswered, don't be hard on yourself. 

Avoid demanding an explanation or sending furious messages, and maintain your composure. 

Don't worry about the little things if an online dating match or casual acquaintance turns you down. 

It can be pretty painful if someone close to you deliberately ignores you. Allow yourself time to mourn.

What does it mean by ghosting? 

When a person you are dating or getting to know suddenly vanishes without a trace, it is called ghosting. 

This can occur both at the start and the middle of a relationship, offline or online. 

Being ghosted is challenging, especially since you typically don't know what caused it or how to respond.

The person abruptly stops communicating with you and won't return your calls, texts, emails, or social media messages. 

Being on the receiving end of these activities can negatively impact one's mental health.

Find out more about how to proceed if it occurs to you or someone you know.

Ways to get over being ghosted! 

1. Avoid contacting them.

It's time to quit reaching out and let go if it's been a few weeks and you've sent one last message to clear the air but received no response

2. Establish sound limits. 

On your social network, block them. NOW. Set limits for how much time you spend thinking about this individual and for yourself. Keep them from "renting space in your brain." 

3. Recognise your emotions.

It is unfair to be ghosted, yes. In fact, it hurts. And even though you tell yourself it doesn't matter, you will still feel annoyed, frustrated, numb, or outraged. Being ghosted is bound to cause all of these reactions. 

It will be simpler to let go of your pain the sooner you accept it.

4. Accept the situation and give yourself time to adjust.

It can be beneficial to accept the situation, acknowledge your sentiments, and give yourself time to work through them. 

Allow yourself to experience the sorrow; after all, you have every right to be upset after being ghosted. It's crucial to admit how much it hurts since that's the only way to go past this.

5. Expose shame. 

Shame is challenging to handle. It can feel impossible to discuss, which makes it isolated. Scandals might result from ghosting in particular. 

Being rejected hurts, and your brain might try to understand it by telling you you were to blame. 

However, keep in mind that it's not about you. However, shame loses some of its impact when it is spoken. Everybody experiences guilt at some point. 

Sharing your embarrassment with a close friend or family member may help you realise how cruel you are to yourself. 

There may be arguments for and against ghosting, but in either case, avoiding conflict is unhealthy. 

If we do not know how to resolve disputes healthily, civilisations of people who value evasiveness, lack emotional intelligence and are incapable of handling conflict may develop. 

By developing our ability to take on challenging circumstances, we can increase our resilience, discover more about our unique personalities, and develop into better problem-solving individuals. 

It's critical to keep in mind that being ghosted is not an indication of your value as a person or of your worth. 

The other person's actions and limits are instead reflected in it. You may move past the experience by putting your own needs first and taking care of yourself.

Cheers for reading X 

My Sunday photo 28/05/2023

 

First time my boys have deshelled a prawn 🦐 

How to make scrambled eggs in the microwave

Hey readers, 

Scrambled eggs make a tasty breakfast in no time, and a protein-rich recipe only needs four minutes in the microwave.

Ingredients

* two eggs. 

* 2 tbsp whole milk. 

* Toast to serve. 

Method.

1. In a microwave-safe jug, whisk the eggs, milk, and a dash of salt using a fork. 

Cook for 30 seconds on High in the microwave, then beat once more and cook for 30 seconds.

2. Beat one more, breaking up any egg clumps. The eggs will be loose at this point, so if this is how you want them, serve them immediately because the microwave will need another 15 seconds to finish the job. 

Beat the eggs in the microwave for 15 seconds before serving if you like your eggs a little firmer.

Cheers for reading X 

Tips to wake yourself up in the morning.

Hey readers, 

When you first open your eyes, it's common to not feel your best. Continue reading for advice on waking up and getting out of your sleepy zone. ASAP. 

1. Make your bed.

A few advantages come with making your bed each morning. 

The first is a feeling of success because even though you've only been awake for a short while, you've already crossed something off your to-do list. 

The second is that making your bed, including your pillows and linens, will make it harder to convince yourself that you should go back to sleep. 

You are more likely to stay awake and leave your bedroom if your bedding is more primped and polished.

2. Avoid the snooze button.

 
In order to wake up more easily, get out of bed after the first alarm. 

Even while it could be tempting to press the snooze button in order to gain a few more minutes of sleep, doing so will only result in interrupted sleep. 

As opposed to uninterrupted sleep, interrupted sleep has fewer advantages.

 In actuality, it causes more stress and has other negative impacts.

Setting your alarm a little later and forgoing the morning snooze may be more beneficial in order to get the most amount and quality of sleep. 

When the first alarm goes off and you find it difficult to get out of bed, move the alarm clock further from your bed to help you get up.

3. Let the Light in.

When you awaken, open the blinds or curtains. also go outside. Your brain functions better and your body clock runs more smoothly under natural light.

 Lights should be on if the weather is dark. A flashing alarm clock might be useful. Additionally, it might not be as abrupt as a loud alert.

 Try using a light box (or sunlamp) if you experience morning brain fog, suffer from depression or seasonal affective disorder. It may make you feel happier and more alert.

4. Adopt a sleeping schedule. 

If you want to establish a regular sleep schedule and train yourself to rise early, you must go to bed and wake up at the same time each day.

Determine how much sleep you require (7 to 9 hours each night is suggested) and try to go to bed early enough to feel rested.

Your body will ultimately start waking up naturally if you follow your sleep routine every day, even on your days off.

5. Power Down Your Devices. 

Turn Off the TV Before Bedtime. It helps to obtain adequate sleep the night before if you want to get up on time.

 Additionally, getting ready for bed involves winding down. Be mindful that when watching television, using a laptop, or using a phone right up until bedtime do not promote peaceful sleep.

 No more justifications: utilise the alarm clock on your preferred device to set a reminder to switch off everything at least an hour before you go to bed.

Have I missed any good tips to help wake you up in the morning? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below. 

Cheers for reading X 

My Sunday photo 21/05/2023

Me and the boys climes Coventry cathedral tower with 180 steps. We got to see some fantastic views of our home town of Coventry. 

Why is occasional boredom is good for a child!

Hey readers,

The feeling of boredom among children is beneficial. Even though boredom can be unpleasant, occasionally going through it will equip them with valuable skills. 

The next time they whine about being bored, you can relax knowing that deep down, they're igniting creativity, developing independence, and taking vital breaks. 

 

1. Boredom encourages imagination and creativity.

When kids are left alone, they are compelled to employ more creativity and imagination to occupy themselves.

Allowing kids the freedom to experiment develops their sense of curiosity and discovery and aids in their exploration of what makes them happy. 

Studies have shown that people expected to execute various dull jobs have more imagination when prompted to engage in a creative thinking exercise.

 Kids must learn to take the initiative and come up with pastimes not predetermined by others. It stimulates imagination and creativity.

2. Boredom helps with problem-solving. 

Your children need to develop their problem-solving skills. The ability to solve problems is a crucial life skill, and boredom is a terrific way to practice.

Because they will utilise these abilities to locate activities, kids benefit from boredom.

Say, for illustration, that your children are uninterested because the internet is down. Your children will devise activities until the connection is established using their problem-solving abilities. 

No one needs to know if you accidentally turned off the modem and caused the outage.

3. Boredom makes your child less selfish.

 
They will become accustomed to having their absurd demands met if you consistently give in to them, and they will grow up believing that the world revolves around them. A negative attitude they will continue into adulthood.

Their actions will escalate in aggression, forcing people to accede to their demands.

They will be inspired to devise strategies for dealing with boredom if they see that you won't give in to their unreasonable demands (omit this if your child needs to hug or bond with you or has a medical problem).

Therefore, you and your spouse will have more free time. 

Also, spending enough time with your significant other helps keep your marriage strong, leading to less stress and a happier home life for your children.

4. Being bored can make their childhood happier.

They are more likely to recall the items they built and the memories they formed when they let their imaginations run wild when they reflect on their youth. 

The things they believed they were incapable of doing, the adventures they underwent.

A mind that has more time to think can generate original ideas and innovative thinking.

Kids should occasionally allow their minds to wander. It is lovely for imagination and creativity, but calm introspection also benefits one's mental well-being and ability to connect with oneself. And that influences how people perceive themselves.

Kids should develop their hobbies so they aren't dependent on others to keep them busy. 

Kids must understand that life is not all fun and games. 

There will be a lot of dull moments. They must amuse themselves and create fun.

5. Boredom is suitable for parents too. 

Giving your children some alone time allows you to spend time with your spouse. 

You don't need to wait for your kid to pass out before you say hello to each other.

 Being a good parent and maintaining your relationship depend on getting some mommy and daddy time. 

Parenting 24/7 has the opposite effect. It increases your anxiety and stress, which could harm your children.

 
What are your views on kids' boredom? I love to hear them down below.

Cheers for reading X 

Tips for Raising Child Who Is Easily Distracted

Hey readers,

An easily distracted child struggles with focus and concentration, hindering his capacity to learn and advance his cognitive abilities.

[Consult a doctor to check for ADHD symptoms if your child is consistently inattentive or cannot sit quietly for extended periods.]

Their regular usage of electronic media is bringing on this disturbing loss in our children's attention span.

A National Institutes of Health (NIH)-funded study found that children who spend more than 7 hours a day in front of a computer experience negative physical changes to the brain, such as premature cortical thinning.

Additionally, kids who watch more than two hours of screen usage every day will probably perform worse in both thinking and language tests.

Knowing how important it is to keep our children's brains healthy, there are steps we can take right now to shield them from the harm that electronic media can cause to their developing minds.

Better results come faster.

Consistent schedule. 

 When they do not adhere to a routine, children struggling with attention problems become even more disoriented and off-task. Working together to establish a regular schedule is something you, as a parent, can do.

 You can let your youngster assist you in making the timetable so they can develop even more life skills. Many kids thrive when given a visual schedule. Have your youngster create an image related to the activity next to the action and then help you put down the time and the task of the training for the day.

Alternatively, you may enlist your child's assistance in choosing pictures from the computer, creating your timetable on the computer, and printing it. The schedule can then be laminated so your child can check items off as they are completed during the day, or you can use it as a handy reference. 

It's crucial to do this so that your child may learn to manage their day without always needing reminders from you. This will also help your child develop independence and self-help abilities.

Be in the moment.

 

Spend at least one moment each day being "in the now" with your child. Have a few moments every day to give your child your complete attention.

 Read her a book, play a quick game of checkers, or work on a sketch or painting together. If you like playing outside, take your kid to the park and play basketball or tennis.

Mindfulness (add a mindfulness activity sheet sample).

Mindfulness exercises have been shown to improve kids' attention span and focus. These exercises have a favourable effect on general focus and concentration because they encourage people to pay attention to the current moment, according to numerous research.

Additionally, it has been demonstrated that they ease anxiety and positively impact children's behaviour in general.

For kids, who typically struggle to sit still, mindfulness is a challenging habit to implement.

The good news is that you can start practising mindfulness techniques with your child right away. And here is a free activity you can download to help your child concentrate.

Read with your child. 

Reading to your children strengthens your relationship and promotes brain development. Little ones are curious and take in everything you say. 

Therefore, whether you read or narrate a story to them, their minds are engaged. Reading aloud to your children regularly helps them develop their listening abilities, linguistic and cognitive skills, creativity, vocabulary, and attention span, as well as their social and emotional development.

Set a timer. 

Simple activities like brushing their teeth, eating, or even playing can all have timers set for them. A child who is easily distracted can focus with the aid of timers. Limiting your child's time to accomplish a task can also challenge and inspire them to finish it.

Limit media sounds in your home. 

Many kids lack the same capacity for sound filtering as adults do. This means that letting your child watch TV while doing her homework can make it harder for her to focus. 

You should only allow your youngster one hour of "screen time" every day. Your exposure to television, video games, and other visual stimuli should be kept to a minimum.

What  do you think to my advice about helping a child stay focused? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below.

 

Cheers for reading X 

My Sunday photo 14/05/2023

 

My eldest has some new glasses this week ☺ 

Air fryer baked potato recipe.

Hey readers, 

Seemingly anything and everything can be cooked in an air fryer via the quick and healthy alternative. This includes the humble jacket potato.

There’s nothing quite tucking into a hot and fluffy jacket potato with your topping of choice - be it baked beans and melted cheese or tuna and egg mayonnaise.

One of her latest quick and easy recipes to do in the air fryer is the good old jacket spud. Not only does it save time on cooking it in an oven, but it also saved much-needed energy in the home, at a time when bills are on the rise.

Below is a how I make a jacket potato in the air fryer, really simple and easy anyone can do it. 

 1. Pre-heat the air fryer at temperature 200c for about 5 minutes.

2. Wash and dry your potatoes and stab them all over deeply with a sharp knife or fork


3. Brush or spray the oil over the potatoes and season with salt and pepper to your taste Set to Bake/Roast at 200c for 16 minutes. 


4. Turn half way through repeating the oil and seasoning on the other side.

5. Set to Air Crisp at 200 degrees centigrade for 15 to 20 mins. Turning the potatoes half way through. You can increase/decrease this time to get the crispiness you prefer this is just a guide time. 

Enjoy X 

How not to spoil your child.

 Hey readers, 

Love has no boundaries, right? Wrong! You must establish certain ground rules if you wish to raise well-behaved kids. 

These five methods will help you stop unhealthy behaviours in their tracks:

1. Teach them to say thank you.

Your child should be able to say "thank you," almost reflexively and without urging, for both tiny, everyday things like a dinner you cook and for larger ones like a birthday gift you give them.

2. Set clear limits. 

Consider it this way: By leaving no space for interpretation, you avoid conflict in the future. As you hear the distinctions between "Oh okay, you can have a cookie," and "You can have one cookie, but don't ask me for another one," both leave open for optimism that a second one would be acceptable. That's it."

3. Giving back is caring.

Sharing teaches your child to value relationships and other people, whereas not sharing teaches them to value things. Children's ability to interact socially with others for the rest of their lives depends on their ability to learn how to share. Sharing is caring, and it has significant, enduring benefits from which you want your child to gain.

4. Promote Healthy Expression and Outlets.

Kids frequently have trouble assessing their emotions, as you are aware. They experience things strongly, and their emotions might fluctuate minute by minute. We've all experienced the seemingly instantaneous transition of one of our children from hysterical laughter and delight to complete and total devastation and sorrow. The joyful half, though, may be beautiful and delightful while the other, not so much.

Handle emotional upheaval with compassion. At first, teaching your children to count to ten, take a deep breath, take a personal timeout, or be able to say something like, "I need a minute to calm down," can sound almost ridiculous.

 Giving your children coping mechanisms, however, can actually help them manage some of that emotional energy and make wise decisions.

 Get your children to name their feelings, the reason of them, and what they perceive as the resolution. Encourage them to use "I feel" comments rather than accusatory language.

5. LEARN TO SAY "NO," first.

It is vital to hear your child out and respect their emotions. A key component of your child's self-esteem is demonstrating to them that they are important and that you always have time for them.

 This does not imply that you must always comply with their desires, though. While acknowledging their ennui, for instance, is OK, it is not acceptable for them to request that you buy them a new toy because they are unsatisfied with the ones they already have. Remember to explain to your youngster why you must say "no" as well.

Cheers for reading X 

My Sunday photo 07/05/2023

 

How to make chocolate brownies in the air fryer.

Hey readers,

Air fryer brownies – gooey fudgy brownies cooked to perfection in your air fryer. Follow my easy air fryer brownie recipe below; you won't regret it!

Ingredients needed.

 

* 80g peanut butter, divided. 

* 40g butter.

* 120g of dark chocolate, divided.

* 175g golden caster sugar. 

* 2 large eggs, beaten.

 

* 60g of self-raising flour. 

* 30g cocoa powder. 

Directions. 

1. Spray the silicon tray (or if there is no tray, take out a crisper plate and spray the drawer) with cooking spray or oil and line the base with a piece of baking parchment.

2. Break up the dark chocolate into pieces, and add into a saucepan with peanut butter and butter.

Gently melt and leave to cool. Meanwhile, in a large bowl, whisk together the sugar and eggs until thick and creamy, like salad cream.

Add in the chocolate mixture and whisk together.

 

3. Sieve the flour and cocoa powder into the bowl and fold in with a sizeable mental spoon.

Spoon the brownie mixture into prepared lined drawers/trays.

Melt peanut butter in the microwave for 40 seconds.

Drizzle over the top of the brownie. 

4. Insert zone 1 drawer unit. Select zone 1, select BAKE, set the temperature to 160C and set the time to 35-40 minutes—press START/STOP.

5. After 30 minutes, remove the zone 1 drawer, and check whether the brownie is cooked.

The brownie is ready when it is soft to the touch in the centre. 

6. Melt the remaining chocolate in the microwave for 20 seconds and stir.

7. Drizzle the melted chocolate over the top of the brownie. 

8. Leave to cool in the drawer. 

9. Leave to cool before lifting out, using the lining paper as a sling.

10. Cut the brownie up into squares. 

Enjoy X

Top tips for new mums.

Hey readers, 

About to become a parent or recently welcomed a newborn? Well, check out my advice on things that I thought were important things. 

Things that I wish people would have shared with me when becoming a parent for the first time. 

See their top tips for ditching the guilt, keeping stress at bay and embracing the chaos of new parenthood.

 1. Keep. It. Simple!!!

 Your task is simple. The early days feel incredibly overwhelming. 

Keep in mind that your infant requires four things: milk, sleep, warmth, and love. 

Avoid letting the countless self-help books, tools, and routines you must follow clog your head. Just focus on those essential care needs.

2. Trust your instincts.

The best advice for a new mum is to follow your instincts. Being a new mum, doubting yourself is simple because you've never done this. I wish to advise you to believe in your instincts and your mother's wisdom, nevertheless.

You were designed with the abilities needed to be a mother. Therefore, you should consider any internal cues that suggest something is off or that everything is fine. 

Don't question your judgement! Mothers are always right, as the saying goes.

3. Stock up on essentials. 

Stock up on the necessities. Have these products on hand, so you won’t have to run to the shop in the middle of the night. I suggest packing three different bags or sections within your bag with the following:

During your recovery, postpartum products like peri bottles, sitz baths, cold packs, painkillers, and witch hazel pads can help. Additionally helpful are pads and disposable undergarments.

Feeding essentials: These include breast cream and burp towels—a bottle of water, a phone charger, and food for yourself. Even if you want to breastfeed, have sterilised bottles and formula available to be on the safe side. 

I couldn't manage to breastfeed, so glad I had the bottle; my mottle is best fed. Breastfeeding has a steep learning curve and is not something every woman can do.

Nappy station: Stock up on nappies, wipes, and lotion for nappy rash in a separate container. You can change the baby on the sofa since it can be too much trouble to even go upstairs to the nursery, depending on your birth outcome.

Purchase your preferred granola bars and other healthy snacks in quantity, and if you are breastfeeding, it makes you very hungry.

4. Hormones. 

Your emotions will be all over the place. So if you cry, laugh, and sob, don’t worry; it’s natural. 

However, if you have feelings of sadness or anxiety beyond the standard “baby blues”, you may be having postnatal depression, and you need to get professional support from your doctor or baby health nurse.

5. Poo. 

It’s not a topic you EVER thought you’d talk about, but as soon as you become a parent, you’ll realise your new fixation with baby poo. 

Or, to be more precise: the frequency, colour, and normality of your child's bowel movements.

The poop of your child is significant and might reveal information about their general health. 

Here is everything you need about baby poop, from the newborn meconium through the various consistencies.

6. Guilt.

This is a hard one, especially when hormones and tiredness are high but don't put too much pressure on yourself. 

You won't enjoy every moment with your baby, and you know what? That is ok. I used to get so stressed trying to hold on to every little thing, but you can't but yourself. 

I know what you can do is enjoy the simple moments that bring happiness. 

Have you got any tips for new mums that I have missed and are worth mentioning in the comment section? I love to hear them down below.

Cheers for reading X