Monday 11 July 2022
5 Ways to cut down the cost of fuel
Friday 8 July 2022
Abortion and me
Hey readers,
I'm lucky. I live in England and have the right to have an abortion if I want to. Many years ago before having children there was this one time when I chose to have an abortion. I was with my husband at the time, we weren’t married then but I was in my first year at university, dealing with crippling depression and had already attempted suicide.
Then during the summer term, I was constantly sick and didn’t feel right, my period was late so did want most women would do in their 20s took a pregnancy test...it came back positive at that point I absolutely shit myself.
I was terrified, I really didn’t think about children at this point and when I did I knew it was not the right time. It was just not right for me, I knew I was not mentally capable of looking after a child.
I did talk to my husband (boyfriend at the time) and we talked for a long time and he agree with me. He was a saint and supported me right through. We booked an appointment with BPAS and they did a scan and then talked me through the process. They then booked me in about a week later to go to the clinic to get an abortion.
It was a clinic not in the city I lived so had to travel to another city to get to the clinic. It was all very professional and didn’t feel judged by the staff. It was done within the afternoon, it felt odd after because literally, all the pregnancy symptoms cleared within the hours of that day – such as tiredness and sickness.
Although at the clinic I was not alone there were many other women like myself going for abortion and also I like to add that a lot travelled from Northern Ireland as it is illegal to have an abortion – so that just goes to show the lengths women will go to have a safe abortion.
One of the saddest parts for me of that day is when leaving the clinic there were prolifers protesting and calling us women all sorts of nasty names such as murders and that shit cuts deep.
Emotional though it took time to register the whole situation it felt a bit like limbo until it dawned on me that it did happen and then it hit me hard. I felt bad, it didn’t help that people that I thought I could trust that I told turned on me and called me a murder, a bad person...you know all the shitty comments people call you. It hurts because they know before the ordeal you went through and used that to get to you and they know it will.
Years later when I got pregnant again and went to the regular first scan I go to for 12 weeks to check everything I had a miscarriage. Because it was my first and no one really talks about miscarriage and I have crippling anxiety I had really intrusive thoughts like it is my thought it happened and it is a result of me having an abortion because I am a murderer.
Reflecting back I know this is just the anxiety getting me when I am in a vulnerable state, now being more aware and know actually miscarriage is more common than you may think.
Regardless of some of the negative aspects of my journey, I am grateful for the fact that living in England I can have the free choice to have a child or not. It is my choice and if I ever chose again to have an abortion I can do it safely without worrying that anything terrible will happen.
I believe women should have that choice and that is sad to see in America that it has gone backwards in time with 26 states making it illegal to ban abortion and now the changes are them women will still have an abortion but not in a safe environment. Like always it is mostly down to the white middle-class male telling us women how to live which is deeply sad.
Cheers for reading X
Monday 4 July 2022
autism and waiting
Hey readers,
Sunday 3 July 2022
Friday 1 July 2022
How to deal with parental burnout.
Monday 27 June 2022
Autistic Parenting.
Sunday 26 June 2022
Friday 24 June 2022
Reasons to love summer
Monday 20 June 2022
5 Ways to get rid of hiccups.
1. Breathing.
Breathe in and hold your breath 3-to 4
times in a row. Slowly inhale to fill your
lungs with air. Hold your breath for 10 seconds, then exhale slowly to release
the breath. Repeat 3-4 times, holding your breath for 10 seconds each time.
2. Bite on a lemon
or taste some vinegar.
3. Place sugar on the tongue.
Take about half a teaspoon of sugar and keep it at
the far end of the back of the tongue, Hold this for two minutes and then
swallow the sugar. Applying pressure along with the tongue aids in eliminating
the tightness in diaphragm muscles.
4. Drinking cold water.
Drink the cold water through a straw. No one knows
exactly why it works, but it could be down to controlling your
breathing.
How to reduce the risks of getting hiccups.
When eating try to slow down if you eat fast and make sure that you are
chewing your food thoroughly as fast eating can cause air to get trapped in the
food which may set off the vagus nerve. Making sure small bites and taking
frequent sips of water can help reduce the risk of getting hiccups.
Some scientists believe that hiccups are a way of telling your body to
stop if your eating too much, it is important not to pig out because your body
needs time to process and break down the food. The extra stomach acid can
bring on hiccups.
Some spices can irritate the lining of the oesophagus and stomach. At
the same time, they can also cause acid from the stomach to leak into the
oesophagus. The extra acid can bring on hiccups.
Like spices, alcoholic beverages can cause a simultaneous irritation of
the oesophagus and the stomach. And over time, excessive drinking can damage the
lining of the food pipe. Parties, like the kind some college students attend,
where people consume a lot of alcohol as quickly as possible, can lead to acute
ingestion.
The digestive system not only becomes irritated by the alcohol,
but big gulps of it cause the oesophagus to expand rapidly, resulting in
hiccups.
Are there any methods that I have missed that have helped you with
getting rid of hiccups? love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down
below.
Cheers for reading X
Sunday 19 June 2022
Friday 17 June 2022
Why daddy you rock!
Monday 13 June 2022
Costa Too Good To Go Magic Bag Review.
Hey readers,
I have purchased Too Good To Go bags before and have blogged about them before here and here.
If you didn't know how Too Good To Go is an app where you can purchase magic bags from stores such as Morrisons and Greggs for a reduced price and you get food that would typically be thrown away.
This is my first Costa Too Good To Go magic bag. I got it on Saturday and the collection time was 3-5 pm.
It cost me £3.00 and I paid on the app using the bank card details I had saved on my card.
Contents of my magic bag.
x2 Bakewell tarts - £2.50 each.
x2 Ham and cheese toastie - £3.50 each.
Feta cheese slow-roasted tomato pasta salad - £3.50.
The total for all the food would have cost me £15.05.
What is also great is you can freeze sandwiches and pasta meals so save money as they won't get through away if they have a short sell-by date.
Have you tried the Too Good To Go App? What are your thoughts? Love to hear in the comment section down below.
Cheers for reading x
Sunday 12 June 2022
Friday 10 June 2022
40 conversation starters for kids
It can be hard to get your child to open up to you therefore a prompt can sometimes really help give them the encouragement to talk to you. It doesn't have to be anything serious the idea is to help with your child communicate and engage in conversation with you.
1. Tell me about the best and worst parts of your day.
2. What’s your favourite game to play?
3. If you could be any animal what would you be and why?
4. What’s your favourite thing to do in the car?
5. If you could be anywhere right now where would you be? What would you be doing?
7. What’s the silliest face that you can make?
8. What’s your favourite song? Why do you like it?
9. What was the best holiday you ever had?
10. Where do you like to go in the car?
11. Who is your best friend and what do you like about that person?
12. Did you learn anything new in school today?
13. If you could wish for three things, what would they be?
14. What’s your favourite holiday?
15. If you were an animal, which one do you think you’d be?
16. What three words do you think to describe your personality best?
17. What’s your favourite subject?
18. If you could have any job, what would it be?
19. What’s something that cheers you up when you’re sad?
20. How does it make you feel when you see someone getting picked on?
21. If you could travel back in time, what decade would you choose to live in?
22. What’s the best thing you’ve ever bought off Amazon?
23. What was the last concert you went to?
24. What is one thing you can’t live without?
25. What’s the strangest dream you’ve had recently?
26. What is your favourite book of all time?
27. How many countries have you been to?
28. What’s your favourite city you’ve visited?
29. Would you rather travel via plane or boat?
30. would you be really really hot or really really cold?
31. Can you remember a time when you made someone smile?
32. Hold were you when you learned to tie your shoes?
34. If you could turn one room of your house into a giant trampoline which one would it be?
35. Have you ever told a small fib so as not to hurt someone’s feelings?
36. Are you good at tongue twisters?
38. Do you like to look at a clock or do you prefer not to know the time?
39. What’s your favourite joke?
40. Who do you talk to the most on the phone?
What do you think about my conversation starters for kids? Have I missed any off that you think are good ones? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below.
Cheers for reading X
Monday 6 June 2022
5 ways to save money on travelling.
Instead of staying in fancy hotels to cut costs but still be comfortable check out low cost alternatives such as Airbnb, as in “Air Bed and Breakfast,” which is a service that lets property owners rent out their spaces to travellers looking for a place to stay. Travellers can rent a space for multiple people to share, a shared space with private rooms, or the entire property for themselves.