How to show respect to a person with autism.

Hey readers, 

Autism is a condition that impairs a person's capacity for interaction and communication. 

People with autism frequently experience prejudice from society. Given the societal conventions surrounding autism, it is pretty simple for non-autistic people to internalise ableism towards autistic persons.

 Fortunately, it is possible to overcome these prejudices and develop a tolerance for autistic people, which will be discussed in this post. 

1. Recognise any biases you have. 

Recognise any factors that may be influencing your prejudice against autistic persons.

 Is it a result of the environment you're in? Have you ever met someone who has autism? Unaware of it, many people internalise the information they are exposed to. 

You need to be aware of your bias, even if you don't mean any harm.
What comes to mind when you think about autistic people? Is it a result of generalisations you may have heard?

It's critical to determine whether you have internalised ableism because it frequently has roots in other prejudices.

2. Be respectful. 

Recognise that you might be acting in ways that an autistic person might find uncomfortable. Numerous autistic people experience sensory problems due to various sounds, sensations, tastes, or sights. 

Don't do something if someone in your life, whether autistic or not, informs you that it makes them uncomfortable, such as loud noises like chewing and slurping, which might exacerbate sensory problems.

 Don't take it personally if someone leaves the room or finds another solution, like putting on headphones if they've made it apparent that a sound is triggering their sensory issues.

Don't make things obvious. Many autistic individuals use repetitive habits as a calming technique. 

Don't make a big deal out of something an autistic person does that you find weird.

These mannerisms include things like humming, tapping their foot, and back-and-forth swaying.
Inform them formally if they are creating a commotion. 

Later, don't make a big deal out of it.

Pay attention to them. A special interest, sometimes known as a subject of particular enthusiasm, is something that many autistic individuals share.

 Do not minimise them for their hobbies if they choose to discuss them.
Don't be harsh about it if it isn't a good time to talk! You don't want to discredit somebody for having strong opinions.

3. Educate yourself. 

Find out more about autism. Due to its extreme complexity, autism is frequently referred to as a spectrum disorder.

 Understanding how people with autism experience it is essential because no two autistic persons are alike.

Take care when choosing your sources. Since there is a lot of misunderstanding about autism, it's crucial to use resources from nonprofits and organisations that concentrate primarily on autism.

 Don't go to Autism Speaks. Look for sources written by autistic people!
Speak to those who are autistic in your life. 

Inquire of anyone you know who has ASD about their experiences. It's a lot simpler to understand that persons with autism are much like everyone else when you can interact with one in person.

Consider how you can assist them more effectively! It's crucial to help them just like you would any of your friends, whether lending a sympathetic ear about issues related to their disease or simply treating them like any other person.

Don't just approach someone with autism and ask them about it. If you are close enough to someone to be able to ask about their experience with the disease, only do so.

Cheers for reading X

How to get over being ghosted.

Hey readers, 

Being ignored, whether it's by a friend or a romantic interest, being ghosted always hurts.

 If your calls and texts start going unanswered, don't be hard on yourself. 

Avoid demanding an explanation or sending furious messages, and maintain your composure. 

Don't worry about the little things if an online dating match or casual acquaintance turns you down. 

It can be pretty painful if someone close to you deliberately ignores you. Allow yourself time to mourn.

What does it mean by ghosting? 

When a person you are dating or getting to know suddenly vanishes without a trace, it is called ghosting. 

This can occur both at the start and the middle of a relationship, offline or online. 

Being ghosted is challenging, especially since you typically don't know what caused it or how to respond.

The person abruptly stops communicating with you and won't return your calls, texts, emails, or social media messages. 

Being on the receiving end of these activities can negatively impact one's mental health.

Find out more about how to proceed if it occurs to you or someone you know.

Ways to get over being ghosted! 

1. Avoid contacting them.

It's time to quit reaching out and let go if it's been a few weeks and you've sent one last message to clear the air but received no response

2. Establish sound limits. 

On your social network, block them. NOW. Set limits for how much time you spend thinking about this individual and for yourself. Keep them from "renting space in your brain." 

3. Recognise your emotions.

It is unfair to be ghosted, yes. In fact, it hurts. And even though you tell yourself it doesn't matter, you will still feel annoyed, frustrated, numb, or outraged. Being ghosted is bound to cause all of these reactions. 

It will be simpler to let go of your pain the sooner you accept it.

4. Accept the situation and give yourself time to adjust.

It can be beneficial to accept the situation, acknowledge your sentiments, and give yourself time to work through them. 

Allow yourself to experience the sorrow; after all, you have every right to be upset after being ghosted. It's crucial to admit how much it hurts since that's the only way to go past this.

5. Expose shame. 

Shame is challenging to handle. It can feel impossible to discuss, which makes it isolated. Scandals might result from ghosting in particular. 

Being rejected hurts, and your brain might try to understand it by telling you you were to blame. 

However, keep in mind that it's not about you. However, shame loses some of its impact when it is spoken. Everybody experiences guilt at some point. 

Sharing your embarrassment with a close friend or family member may help you realise how cruel you are to yourself. 

There may be arguments for and against ghosting, but in either case, avoiding conflict is unhealthy. 

If we do not know how to resolve disputes healthily, civilisations of people who value evasiveness, lack emotional intelligence and are incapable of handling conflict may develop. 

By developing our ability to take on challenging circumstances, we can increase our resilience, discover more about our unique personalities, and develop into better problem-solving individuals. 

It's critical to keep in mind that being ghosted is not an indication of your value as a person or of your worth. 

The other person's actions and limits are instead reflected in it. You may move past the experience by putting your own needs first and taking care of yourself.

Cheers for reading X 

My Sunday photo 28/05/2023

 

First time my boys have deshelled a prawn 🦐 

How to make scrambled eggs in the microwave

Hey readers, 

Scrambled eggs make a tasty breakfast in no time, and a protein-rich recipe only needs four minutes in the microwave.

Ingredients

* two eggs. 

* 2 tbsp whole milk. 

* Toast to serve. 

Method.

1. In a microwave-safe jug, whisk the eggs, milk, and a dash of salt using a fork. 

Cook for 30 seconds on High in the microwave, then beat once more and cook for 30 seconds.

2. Beat one more, breaking up any egg clumps. The eggs will be loose at this point, so if this is how you want them, serve them immediately because the microwave will need another 15 seconds to finish the job. 

Beat the eggs in the microwave for 15 seconds before serving if you like your eggs a little firmer.

Cheers for reading X 

Tips to wake yourself up in the morning.

Hey readers, 

When you first open your eyes, it's common to not feel your best. Continue reading for advice on waking up and getting out of your sleepy zone. ASAP. 

1. Make your bed.

A few advantages come with making your bed each morning. 

The first is a feeling of success because even though you've only been awake for a short while, you've already crossed something off your to-do list. 

The second is that making your bed, including your pillows and linens, will make it harder to convince yourself that you should go back to sleep. 

You are more likely to stay awake and leave your bedroom if your bedding is more primped and polished.

2. Avoid the snooze button.

 
In order to wake up more easily, get out of bed after the first alarm. 

Even while it could be tempting to press the snooze button in order to gain a few more minutes of sleep, doing so will only result in interrupted sleep. 

As opposed to uninterrupted sleep, interrupted sleep has fewer advantages.

 In actuality, it causes more stress and has other negative impacts.

Setting your alarm a little later and forgoing the morning snooze may be more beneficial in order to get the most amount and quality of sleep. 

When the first alarm goes off and you find it difficult to get out of bed, move the alarm clock further from your bed to help you get up.

3. Let the Light in.

When you awaken, open the blinds or curtains. also go outside. Your brain functions better and your body clock runs more smoothly under natural light.

 Lights should be on if the weather is dark. A flashing alarm clock might be useful. Additionally, it might not be as abrupt as a loud alert.

 Try using a light box (or sunlamp) if you experience morning brain fog, suffer from depression or seasonal affective disorder. It may make you feel happier and more alert.

4. Adopt a sleeping schedule. 

If you want to establish a regular sleep schedule and train yourself to rise early, you must go to bed and wake up at the same time each day.

Determine how much sleep you require (7 to 9 hours each night is suggested) and try to go to bed early enough to feel rested.

Your body will ultimately start waking up naturally if you follow your sleep routine every day, even on your days off.

5. Power Down Your Devices. 

Turn Off the TV Before Bedtime. It helps to obtain adequate sleep the night before if you want to get up on time.

 Additionally, getting ready for bed involves winding down. Be mindful that when watching television, using a laptop, or using a phone right up until bedtime do not promote peaceful sleep.

 No more justifications: utilise the alarm clock on your preferred device to set a reminder to switch off everything at least an hour before you go to bed.

Have I missed any good tips to help wake you up in the morning? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below. 

Cheers for reading X 

My Sunday photo 21/05/2023

Me and the boys climes Coventry cathedral tower with 180 steps. We got to see some fantastic views of our home town of Coventry. 

Why is occasional boredom is good for a child!

Hey readers,

The feeling of boredom among children is beneficial. Even though boredom can be unpleasant, occasionally going through it will equip them with valuable skills. 

The next time they whine about being bored, you can relax knowing that deep down, they're igniting creativity, developing independence, and taking vital breaks. 

 

1. Boredom encourages imagination and creativity.

When kids are left alone, they are compelled to employ more creativity and imagination to occupy themselves.

Allowing kids the freedom to experiment develops their sense of curiosity and discovery and aids in their exploration of what makes them happy. 

Studies have shown that people expected to execute various dull jobs have more imagination when prompted to engage in a creative thinking exercise.

 Kids must learn to take the initiative and come up with pastimes not predetermined by others. It stimulates imagination and creativity.

2. Boredom helps with problem-solving. 

Your children need to develop their problem-solving skills. The ability to solve problems is a crucial life skill, and boredom is a terrific way to practice.

Because they will utilise these abilities to locate activities, kids benefit from boredom.

Say, for illustration, that your children are uninterested because the internet is down. Your children will devise activities until the connection is established using their problem-solving abilities. 

No one needs to know if you accidentally turned off the modem and caused the outage.

3. Boredom makes your child less selfish.

 
They will become accustomed to having their absurd demands met if you consistently give in to them, and they will grow up believing that the world revolves around them. A negative attitude they will continue into adulthood.

Their actions will escalate in aggression, forcing people to accede to their demands.

They will be inspired to devise strategies for dealing with boredom if they see that you won't give in to their unreasonable demands (omit this if your child needs to hug or bond with you or has a medical problem).

Therefore, you and your spouse will have more free time. 

Also, spending enough time with your significant other helps keep your marriage strong, leading to less stress and a happier home life for your children.

4. Being bored can make their childhood happier.

They are more likely to recall the items they built and the memories they formed when they let their imaginations run wild when they reflect on their youth. 

The things they believed they were incapable of doing, the adventures they underwent.

A mind that has more time to think can generate original ideas and innovative thinking.

Kids should occasionally allow their minds to wander. It is lovely for imagination and creativity, but calm introspection also benefits one's mental well-being and ability to connect with oneself. And that influences how people perceive themselves.

Kids should develop their hobbies so they aren't dependent on others to keep them busy. 

Kids must understand that life is not all fun and games. 

There will be a lot of dull moments. They must amuse themselves and create fun.

5. Boredom is suitable for parents too. 

Giving your children some alone time allows you to spend time with your spouse. 

You don't need to wait for your kid to pass out before you say hello to each other.

 Being a good parent and maintaining your relationship depend on getting some mommy and daddy time. 

Parenting 24/7 has the opposite effect. It increases your anxiety and stress, which could harm your children.

 
What are your views on kids' boredom? I love to hear them down below.

Cheers for reading X