My Sunday Photo 20/06/2021

Happy Father's day to the best daddy in the world my boys could ask for :)

Reasons why we love you, daddy

Hey readers,

As is Fathers day coming up I thought I would do a post for my husband who is an exceptional daddy, unlike my dad I won't go there, lol. 

Reasons why we love you, daddy.

You so chilled and don't follow any scedules.

You also stay calm and keep your togetherness whilst mummy is an emotional wreck.

You are really enthusiastic about reading the books at bedtime with different types of voices making it that extra special.

You are so anal and when you do something you put 100% into it. 

You think outside the box and have a creative flair in an organised manner which results in you having quirky ideas and you can bring them to life. 

You are hands-on and a maker and I can't wait for you to make our bunk beds they will be so bespoke!

You keep things simple where mummy struggles greatly with this making everything much more complicated than it needs to be.

Your always open and tell it as it is, a vagina is a vagina no messing about.

You never hideaway and the top lesson that you teach your children is truth whether that be about mental health (mummy's lol) or how the car works.

 Communication is very important for you and you want to pass that importance on to your children. 

You make your children feel calm knowing that you are a true and trusted caregiver in their life. You will protect them and always love them unconditionally.

You have a wicked sense of humour. 

You hold me high on your shoulders making me feel like a warrior.

You are not scared to cry or shamed and open to emotions.

Your the bedrock of this family and keep everything together.

Life is complete with you in our lives.

You accept me for who I am and don't put pressure on me but encourage my strengths. 

Happy Father's day. 

Cheers for reading X 

9 things that annoy me about being a school parent!

Hey readers,

As a parent, it can be lovely but also moments of pure irritation and there are few elements of being a school parent that is really annoying so below I have discussed them. 

1. Homework. 

Of course, homework had to be at the top. I think homework should be banned for primary school children, it is just constant work and trying to get kids motivated.

 Yes, some love it but my kids hate having to do something that is forced upon them. It is stressful for everyone and a lot of pressure for parents which could potentially cause conflict in the home. 

2. Paperwork. 

If homework isn't enough to deal with you always seem to have constant letters and paperwork to fill out. 

You also have to remember to do it and return it. I cannot trust my child to hand it in as it will be in the back when it gets home after school even though you have asked them to hand it in.

 So, trying to remember water bottles, getting kids out of the door, and safely to school have to remember to hand in that dame slip on time, grrrr!

3. Cash.

Ok, these pro-covid times but having to have cash, who has cash???? I only tend to have my money card. You need short change as well to pay for stuff such as tickets or raffles. 

Normally it is at the end of the day where you completely forget to go to the cashpoint before picking up your darling children. 

4. Other parents.

Do I need to say anymore! Jokes though serious I don't understand playground dynamics, can't really be arsed with cliques. 

I just can't be bothered to hear about people's opinions on their little darlings. I am already fucked being autistic and yet again feel like an outsider. 

5. Headlice.

This is something once your kids hit school will receive frequent letters informing you that there is a case of headlice. 

I am already itching thinking about it. Plus if you have already treated your child and got rid of the little sods there will be another child in their class who for whatever reason still has nits and you bet your child will come home the same day with them.

 I may as well just through money down the drain with the amount sometimes we have to buy on head lice treatment.

6.  Being on time. 

Yes once you finally remember everything and your child is ready to leave and then just like that they forget something at the very last minute. 

Or if you are walking at a reasonable pace but you have to constantly shout hurry up we are going to be late because your little darlings won't stop dawdling behind. 

7. Dates.

Having to remember all these dates such as parent's day, sats, after school club, extra meetings with teachers, listening to lectures on how to help your child learn the time's tables, on it goes. It just never stops with the dates flying at you.

8. Dress-up day.

I bloody hate it because I have to fork out extra money for one day or use my imagination which is something I am not good at so extra ball achy don't really need. 

So, is there anything that I have missed off the list that annoys you as a school parent? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below.

Cheers for reading X

Confessions of a Crummy Mummy

My Sunday Photo 13/06/2021

We checked out the new water fountains in town. Perfect activity when it is hot ☀ 

Autism and heat intolerance.

 Hey readers,

I hate the heat! I used to think that it was just what I didn't enjoy. But researching and reading more on other people's experience of how heat affects their autism. Like autism, it's always the two extremes whether it be tolerance or intolerance for something. The subject I want to talk about is heat and how that affects me. Let's start off with the major thing I like to say about heat is the fact I HATE IT.

Now don't get me wrong I like sunshine however I don't like humid and unbearable heat (into the late 20s and 30s degrees). It really impacts my mood and makes me really, really irritable. I literally can not think straight in such hot temperatures and anyone around me really irritates the crap out of me the moment they speak to me.

No control of the heat 

I don't like sweating, the feeling of it, and just makes me feel nauseous. I have to take a shower after every time I go out. Sometimes 3 or 4 showers in a day at home when it is in the 30s temperature as my flat is like a bloody greenhouse due to the fact where my corner of the tower block faces the sun, absolute joy I can tell you. 

I don't like having sweat constantly dripping when it is so hot, it feels like my skin feels really dirty. I hate the sensation and feel the need to frequently wash my hands, face, etc. It can take over my thoughts of having these horrible thoughts and again impacting my mood making me feel grumpy AF as within minutes of washing I can feel yuk again. 

I think the heat sucks all your energy out and you don't want to anything. This is even more prominent when you get little sleep due to the heat. Therefore impacting my mood and being less rational in my thinking. 

The sunshine so bright with the blue skies and no clouds about really affects me visually. It is not uncommon for me to have frequent headaches during the summer due to my sensitivity to sunlight and trying my best to say in the shade.

I am lucky I guess being in the Uk that we may have a few spells of a heatwave but during that time it is hell. I wish I could afford air con. However, until that day I try and make it through the day. 

I am thankful that I actually like the white noise of the fan and actually find it quite comforting. I tend to avoid going out because I just hate it and much prefer if I have to go out in the evening because just about bearable. 

Another couple of ways to help manage heatwave intolerance is to have black-out blinds to reduce the lighting coming through the room. Also, making sure having cotton clothing to keep cool has been a blessing. 

Keeping hydrated and eating cool food such as watermelon help keep me cool. I also like ice cubes which I normally hate in drinks. But during the heat, I can manage with them and they are a lifesaver to keep cool in hot conditions. 

Another tip is to put the pillowcase covers in the freezer and get them out at night, it is so soothing and helps keep you cool which in turn gives you a better night's sleep. 

Of course, I am always looking for tips from other people who have knowledge on autism and heat management, Thank goodness for the internet as it is really useful to read what helps other people like myself who struggle with the heat.

If you have any tips I would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below.

Cheers for reading X

 

How to make playdough.

 Hey readers,

It is really easy to make your own playdough and perfect for a rainy day activity. It doesn't take long to make and most items you might have already in the cupboard. Kids love playing with playdough and it is a sensory activity as well. 

What you will need. 

* 8 tbsp of plain flour. 

* 2 tablespoons of salt. 

* 60ml warm water.

* Food colouring. 

* 1 tablespoon of vegetable oil.

Method. 

1. Mix the flour and salt together in a bowl. 

2. Next add the water and oil. 

3. kneed the mixture together for about 10 minutes so that it is smooth. You might need to and more water and flour until the 

consistency is smooth but not sticky. 

4. Add the food colouring of your choice and mix that in so that planted into the playdough. 

5. Put in a covered bowl or bag in the fridge until it is chilled enough to use.

Cheers for reading X

Confessions of a Crummy Mummy

My Sunday Photo 06/06/2021

Get an uncle who will climb trees with you :)