Aspie burnout.

Hey readers,

As someone with autism, I have many a time experienced a phenomenon called burnout.

What does autistic burnout mean? 

To put it simply an autistic burnout is when you are exhausted mentally, physically, or emotionally (sometimes all of it sometimes some of these elements). 

It comes about as an autistic person you are making much more effort to navigate in a neotropical world, sometimes you have to put more focus on trying to get thinks correct and that takes a lot of energy out of you.

 Over time it climates vary decries but there are times when your body and mind need a rest because it gets too much and you simply need a break from constantly second-guessing, remembering how to behave in certain situations that don't come naturally to you.

 Autistic people (myself included) are very good at masking i.e faking it as most things don't come naturally to the autistic person they just learn A LOT.  This like I said is very exhausting work. 

 That is how I feel today, I am shattered beyond belief even after six coffees (that is correct) just this morning.

I think because I am more involved socially with taking my both boys to school. It involves going into two different environments and trying to remember all the social rules when dropping my children off. 

Then again collecting them is very tiring for me socially. I feel so guilty as I am getting worn out from it all and I just want to shut down and not think about anything but rest. 

I can handle about three hours max at the moment going out and then I am exhausted. I find it hard to focus on conversation, eye contact, dealing with social situations where I don't automatically know what to do. I get very dizzy and lightheaded. 

Particularly yesterday I went to a new place and got overstimulated. It causes friction between me and my partner. He wants to know why, why, why and all I really wish to do is scream or hide wide which I can not do either, doh being an adult sucks!

My eyes find it hard to focus after intense periods of time out where I am constantly working and focusing all my energy on being 'normal '. People don't know when they see me. 

I am constantly consciously aware of my environment and what I am doing. My body aches from all the tension as I am hyper-alert that I should be playing out this role of mother. Not to mention if a child accidentally touches me, it freaks me out inside. God, I feel so lonely and sad.

Today I hate being autistic and when your husband hints that your child may be autistic. As the older, he is getting the more traits there are that could be hinting towards Autism. God, I don't want my children to have Autism. 

OK, there are some positive autistic traits such as we pay attention to detail, loyal, and intelligence but it all comes with a price. I'm scared as sometimes I look at my oldest and he is so like me. I wish it was just him mimicking my behavior.

Cheers for reading X

My Sunday photo 19/09/2021

Husband found some gremlins in the back of the boot 😂 

My Spooktacular Wishlist for Halloween 2021!

 Hey readers,

It is nearly time for the spooky season so thought I would devise my Halloween wishlist for 2021 of things that want for Halloween, check it out below. 

1. Halloween mug.

How cute are these Halloween mugs from Poundland and even better still they only cost £1, what an absolute bargain! There are two varieties one is the orange pumpkin-shaped mug and the other is a black cup with gold stars and moon on it.

2. Socks.

How cute are these bat socks from Shein

for £1.50. They are so cute with bats and the orange and yellow section make them a spectral delight. 

3. Pumpkin ornaments. 

These pumpkin ornaments are not your normal variety but black which is quite nice for something a bit different. One pumpkin is fully black, the other is black and white stripes and the final one is white with black spots. They come as a pack of 3 from Next for £10.

4. Horror bath bombs. 

If you are into your horror films and like bath bombs this is perfect and for £2.29 from Etsy I think is good. It comes with a selection of four bath bombs with one nun, clone, ouija, and skull. Something a bit novelty to have in the bath. 

5. Sign. 

I liked this when I first saw it made me laugh and that would be fun to hang on a wall for Halloween. It comes from Gothic Gifts

 for £3.95.

6. Candles. 

There is something sinister about candles that weep out the wax down the candles. Amazon has these candles called vampire tears candles that black taper candles that 'bleed' when lit. These cost £7.43 from Amazon. 

7. Skull wreath. 

A great way to decorate your door for Halloween is with a wreath and it is perfect because you can't have Halloween with good old skulls. This wreath came from Halloween Costumes for £17.99.

8. T-shirt. 

Perfect for a Halloween party is this black t-shirt with red lips and words saying boo at the front. Comes from Next and cost £18.00. 

9. Pumpkin string lights.

As the nights get darker these cute Halloween pumpkin string led lights will create a cosy flow to your room. They come from Lights 4 Fun for £6.99.

10. Gonk. 

How cute is this Halloween gonk with a body, it is small but it is fun to have on your shelving for the Halloween vibes. It comes from Fab Finds for £3.99.

What do you think of my Halloween wish list for 2021? Anything that catches your eye? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below. 

Cheers for reading X

How to deal with chickenpox.

Hey readers,

In this post, I am going to be talking about how to deal with chickenpox in a child. This may be useful if you have never experienced chickenpox before and want to know how to treat the infection. 

What is chickenpox?

Chickenpox is a common infection caused by the varicella-zoster virus. Chickenpox is common and is mostly affects children, although it is catchable at any age.

  Chickenpox is highly contagious and causes an itchy spotty red rash and blisters.  Other symptoms are fever, headache, and loss of appetite. 

It normally gets better on its own within a week. After classic symptoms occur (headache, temperature, loss of appetite) the rash will occur.

3 stages of chickenpox.

1. Red or pink bumps develop over the body.

2. The bumps become blisters filled with fluid that leaks. 

3. The bumps become crusty, scab over, and begin to heal. 

As chickenpox is contagious and literally can catch chickenpox in the same room you will need to stay away from school, nursery, or work for 5 days after the spots appear.    

Stay away from pregnant women, newborn babies and people with a weakened immune system as this can cause serious problems being around people with chickenpox. 

When to speak to a doctor. 

If you are unsure if your child has chickenpox.

Your child is dehydrated.

If you feel worried that the situation is getting worse for the child. 

How to treat chickenpox. 

Drink plenty of fluids so that the person does not get dehydrated. Try things like lollies as well can also increase fluid levels and help fight the infection. 

Wear comfortable clothing that is not too many layers so that it the not cold or overheated. Cotton clothing is suitable as is cool and breathable material for the skin. 

Painkillers such as child's medication in liquid form are perfect as it helps bring down the temperature of the child, it does not cure the fever element but it just makes it more comfortable for the child. 

It isn't a good idea to use a fan as it provides too much cool air. Instead, have a window open to allow gentle airflow through the room. 

Keep fingernails short to stop the child from scratching their skin. 

Calamine lotion is good to use to help soothe the itching of the skin. 

You can also speak to your pharmacist about an antihistamine medicine to help with itching which is good to take at night when the child is struggling to sleep with the itchy skin. Alternatively putting socks on the child's hands at night can help stop the child from itching.

Please do not give ibuprofen to the child as this could potentially cause serious skin infections. Also if a child is under the age of 16 years age then they are not allowed to take aspirin. 

Take regular cool baths and pat the skin dry but do not rub as this can irritate the skin. 

Cheers for reading X

My Sunday photo 12/09/2021

...and just like that, we are back to school!

60 fun things to do on your birthday.

Hey readers,

Looking for some cool ideas to celebrate your birthday then look no further as I have 60 birthday ideas to get your inspired. 

 1. Eat at a restaurant that you haven't tried before. 

2. Play board games. 

3. Breakfast in bed.

4. Spend the day with someone special. 

5. Spend the day at a spa. 

6. Rent a limo. 

7. Spend the day at the beach. 

8. Go to a concert. 

9. Ditch work for the day. 

10. Have a coffee date at a coffee shop. 

11. Check out an amusement park. 

12. Climb a mountain. 

13. Play laser tag. 

14. Buy a new outfit. 

15. Do a birthday photoshoot. 

16. Go camping.

17. Go flower picking. 

19. Spend the day in bed.

20. Buy yourself a gift. 

21. Book into a hotel.

22. Go to a vineyard.

23. Visit a brewery hop. 

24. Buy your favorite treat. 

25. Head to a bowling aisle.

26. Go for a hike. 

27. Splurge on a nice bottle of your favorite wine. 

28. Buy yourself some flowers.

29. Turn your phone off for a set period of time. 

30. Plan a trip to somewhere you really want to visit. 

31. Have a favorite movie marathon. 

32. Go dancing.

33. Go to an escape room. 

34. Go wine tasting.

35. Go to a trampoline park. 

36. Watch a comedy show. 

37. Go canoeing or kayaking. 

38. Hire a boat and ride on the lake.

39. Get a psychic reading.

40. Go horseback riding. 

41. Go to a clay or pottery class. 

42. Go rock climbing.

43. Learn how to sail.

44. Go to the lake. 

45. Ride a bike.

46. Donate or volunteer.

47. Visit gardens or an arboretum. 

48. Check out a natural trust property. 

49. Create an art masterpiece. 

50. Visit a zoo. 

51. Live out your ideal day. 

52. Plant a tree.

53. Go urban exploring. 

54. Scrapbooking. 

55. Make origami.

56. Have a long soak in the bath. 

57. Try out VR. 

58. Play mini-golf.

59. Have a BBQ. 

60. Got a fair, carnival, or festival. 

What do you like to do on your birthday? Love to hear your ideas in the comment section down below.

Cheers for reading X

How to make a sensory bottle

Hey readers,

A fun activity that is simple to do is a sensory bottle. Kids love watching the mixture in the bottle move around and can be calming for them if they want some wind-down time. Below I tell you how to make the sensory bottle. 

What you will need. 

* Pop bottle.

*  Glitter glue.

*  Glitter.

*  Water.

*  Washing up liquid. 

How to make the glitter bottle. 

1. Wash out the bottle and remove the label.

2. Put the glitter glue into the bottle.

3. Fill it up with water to about an inch or two of the open bottle. 

4. Add some glitter.

5. Screw the lid tightly. 

6. We added a squirt of washing up liquid as it made the glitter sink and not stay at the top making the mixture more evenly spread inside of the bottle. 

7. Shake the bottle and there you have your own sensory bottle. 

Cheers for reading X