6 ways to deal with rejection.

Hey readers,

Sometimes I just want to throw the towel in because I feel like a pile of shit. I am particularly venerable in feeling down because my confidence is at rock bottom.

 It can be really mentally draining when you are rejected all the time, it can be so disheartened especially when you have so much hope in that one thing.  So, how do you overcome rejection, well here my tops to cope with such a horrible feeling?

1. Cry.

 First of it is ok to grieve in a sense and have a  good old cry. I feel it is good to mope for a short period as it gives you more time to come round to the decision.

2. It will pass.

Reminding yourself that this feeling will pass and it will get better.

3. Distraction.

 A great way to try not to pay all your attention to the feelings of rejection is to keep yourself distracted. This will make you not feed into the downward spiral of a downer instead you can do something practical and deal with the feelings at a later date when you are calmer.

4. Acceptance.

Accepting the rejection and moving on. It may help to acknowledge that you are not the only person in the world to have experienced rejection. At some point in life, everyone will experience rejection even the most successful people can't run away from it either.

5. Think of the positives.

 Rejection may be a good thing for you. For example, if you attended a job interview you could ask the interviewer the reasons behind their decision to not employ you. This could potentially help you learn and help make changes to improve if needed.

6. Appreciation.

 Finally, I feel it is important to praise yourself as it is an indication that you are living your life and taking that risk by putting yourself out there.  It takes courage to put yourself in a venerable situation so take time to appreciate the work you have achieved.

What ways help you deal with rejection? how do you deal with rejection? Love to hear your thoughts in the comments down below. 

Cheers for reading X

50 of the best satisfying feelings in the world

Hey readers,

You know the feelings that are totally satisfying well I have done a list of 50 the best satisfying feelings ever in the world to nod along to.

 

1.  Getting into a new set of PJs. 
2. Pealing PVA glue of the back of your hand.
3. Vacuum packing anything. 
4. Finally getting water out of your ear.
5. Pressure washing anything. 
6. Opening a fresh jar of Nutella. 
7.  Seeing your food coming in a restaurant. But you should always act surprised when the server actually arrives.
8. Getting your hair washed at the hairdressers.
9. Getting the last piece of food that is stuck in your teeth out. 
10. Taking your socks off after a long day.
11. When your song comes on the radio.
12. Wrapping a present perfectly. 
13.  Cleaning your ears out. 
14. Picking off a dry bit of skin off your lips. 
15. Sleeping in on a rainy day.
16. Cracking your joints when they finally are ready to be cracked.
17.  Getting the email you have been waiting anxiously for.
18. The feeling in your stomach after you have been up and down on a rollercoaster.
19. Finding money you didn't have.
20. Stoping a microwave when it has 1 second left.
21. Hearing the right song at the right time. 
22. Realising you have more time to sleep.
23. Rubbing your eyes without makeup on.
24.   Being alone at home and basking in the silence.
25. Taking a sip of the first drink. 
26. Stretching out at the end of the day.
27. Closing the curtains when it is dark and curling up in a blanket.
28. Finishing a book.
29. Working out to a super badass song.
30. Having a pee when it feels like you have been holding it for nine years. 
31. Taking your socks off and getting into bed. 
32. Waking up from a nap and not knowing how long you have been asleep for. 
33. Letting out a dramatic sigh.
34.  Watching the rain from the window. 
35. Drinking water after something spicy. 
36. Putting clothes on straight from the tumble drier. 
37.  Fresh clean bedsheets. 
38. When the hiccups finally go away. 
39. When the web page finally loads after waiting ages with the circle of doom.
40.  Tearing off a piece of paper perfectly from a notebook. 
41. Having a good laugh.
42. Kicking through crunchy leaves. 
43. Washing your face at the end of the day.
44.  Going to bed happy and with a full tummy. 
45. Taking your bra off after a long day.
46. Opening a book on the right page you want.
47. Watching your coffee and milk mix.
48. Relaxing outside on a sunny day.
49. Peeling the plastic of something you have just brought.
50. The first snow of the season. 

Is there any other satisfying feeling that I have missed off the list? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below.

 Cheers for reading X

50 Terribly British Quirks.

Hey readers,

Do you know that people who live outside the UK would look at some of the behaviour we do and think what the F? Where we would not bad an eyelid. So here are some fun things we do that are perfectly reasonable.

1. Using the term poorly. 
2. The weather is one of the main topics of conversation. 
3. Saying sorry to something that has happened even though you haven't even done something wrong.
4. Eating beans on toast.
5. Shouting your welcome when someone doesn't thank you for something you have done for them.
6. Finding a trolley in the supermarket you don't have to put a pound in.
7. Rearranging cups with letters in the store to form a swear word such as twat.
8. Complaining about how much Freddo chocolate costs.
9. Fish and chips at the seaside.
10. Dunking biscuits into your cup of tea.
11. Eating after eights before eight.
12. Exclaiming the idolism, "keep your hair on" with A strong accent.
13. Crisp sandwiches.
14. Clotted cream on a scone.
15. Marmite.
16. Biting the top of a walnut whip.
17. Sitting upstairs at the front of a double-decker bus.
18. Come dine with me on channel 4.
19. Being annoyed at someone posh on The Antique Roadshow and finding out the item is worth thousands of pounds.
20. Fish finger sandwiches.
21. Arguing over the correct pronunciation of scone.
22. A soggy bottom.
23. Arguing over how tea should be done correctly.
24. Grabbing a bargain.
25. Chip butty.
26. Overjoyed when the car park ticket machine is broke and the car park ticket is free.
27. Warming your socks on the radiator before putting them on. 
28. Listening to the weather forecast.
29. Socks with sandals. 
30. Queuing.
31. Staying in your pyjamas all day.
32. Stealing toiletries from the hotel you are staying at. 
33. Having hot chocolate with all the extras.
34. Sneaking your favourite chocolate bar out of the tin before anyone else does at Christmas.
35. A 99 ice cream.
36. Eating Nutella out of the jar. 
37. Buying yourself flowers. 
38. Weird celebrity crushes. 
39. Doing multiple Buzzfeed quizzes.
40. Eating the stash of sweets/chocolate that was Meant to be for the kids. 
41. Drinking juice directly from the carton. 
42. Watching Only Fools and Horses episode for the 1000th time. 
43. Watching dog and cat videos on youtube.
44. chips and gravy.
45. Ordering takeaway because you can't be bothered to cook.
46. Proving your partner wrong about something. 
47. Eating cereal for dinner. 
48. Listening to cheesy pop. 
49. Watching day time tv when your ill such as This Morning, Bargain Hunt or Homes Under the Hammer. 
50. Having breakfast in bed. 

Can you relate to any of these British quirks? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below.

Cheers for reading X

my Sunday Photo 04/10/2020

 

50 items to flip

 Hey readers,

Looking for a way to earn a few quid on the side especially with Christmas around the corner then a good way to do this is by a method called flip. 

What does Flip mean?

It is a term originated from America but to but it simply you buy something at a small cost and go on to sell it for a profit. 

Types of places to buy goods are:

• Chruch sales
• Auctions
• Charity shops 
• Library/university sales
• Car boots
• Markets
• Wholesalers.

Then what you do is simply place the item on money selling app such as eBay, Facebook market, gum tree etc and then increase value for its worth. 

Make sure photos are crisp, getting loads of photos so the buyer and clearly see the product. Give information about the product if it is used or new etc can help get a good sale. 

Of course, if you are doing this long term which some people do. I don't personally just the odd thing here and there but you will need to think about buying items in bulk such as bubble wrap, paper, sellotape, envelopes and even the best deal with delivery. 

It is important to do your research if you want to do this long time. Nonetheless, you chose what you want to put in of course it could be the odd item.  

You definitely need time as it is work to put all the information together, making sure the item is a good condition and getting items posted. 

Anyhow, I have come up with 50 items which are brilliant for getting a good sell and it helps to have something in mind to look for when out in a charity shop or similar.

 

50 top-selling items to flip on selling sites to make a profit. 

1. Vintage VHS horror. 
2. Cashmere anything.
3. New and used shoes. 
4. Old gaming systems. 
5. Car parts. 
6. Bicycles.
7. Textbooks.
8. Disney stuff.
9. Furniture.
10. Power tools. 
11. Designer watches. 
12. Antiques.
13. Basthtubs / proclein sinks.
14. Ceramic decorations that are rare to find. 
15. Concert t-shirts.
16. Canvas painting. 
17. Limited edition trainers.
18. Baby and kid gear.
19. Vintage eyewear. 
20. Vinyl.
21. Books. 
22. Sports memorabilia.
23. Old canning jars.
24. Wine.
25. Houses.
26. Trailers.
27. Websites.
28. Vintage board games.
29. Vintage toys.
30. Anything related to Star Wars.
31. Lego sets.
32. Nutcrackers.
33. Collectables.
34. Outdoor furniture.
35. Snow globes.
36. Vintage cups.
37. Glassware.
38. Remote controls.
39. Small antiques.
40. Sterling silver.
41. Mobile phones.
42. Barbies.
43. Pyrex.
44. Power washing equipment.
45. Record players.
46. Vintage video games. 
47. Appliances.
48. Photography gear. 
49. Scrap metal.
50. Commercial equipment.

Have you ever flipped any items to resell? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section down below.

Cheers for reading X

How sensory helps me relax.

Hey readers,

Autism is hard at times to manage and I feel crap recently because I seem to be having frequent meltdowns due to added pressure socially. Plus additional important information I need process and adapt to new changes. 

So I have tried new ways to incorporate relation techniques into my daily life to help make me relax a bit more.

I know Asperger affects me in a way where I like doing physical hand movement type things as oppose to say thinking/meditating type things. I find some sensory activities can cause stress but others can create relaxation for me and stop me to obsessively checking of thinking  (as I also have OCD).

1) Firstly I absolutely love colouring. I have found it really helpful in giving me something to focus on and just being in the moment without constantly having several thoughts rushing through my head. It helps make me more relaxed so I can face challenges better too.

2) Planning something whether be a day out or activity with the kiddos I get pleasure from. Especially when it goes smoothly. I find it detracts me away from stress as again I focus on the here and now without worrying about things that I don't necessarily need too.

3) Personally for me there is something amazing about putting your head on a cold pillow.  Maybe because going into my bedroom (which is not often a lot cooler than other places in my home) can calm me down. I have several trips throughout the day to my room for 'timeout'. I found my temperatures get really hot when I'm anxious and faffing therefore feeling something cool can soothe me.

4) I have social anxiety, I do go out now but I tend to feel very anxious and on edge. So when I am using public transport I use a stress ball to help relax me when I get overwhelmed. It distracts me and I get to get rid of all that pend up energy and frustration.

5) This sounds weird when writing this down but brushing my hair helps relieve stress and I love the feeling after.

I know a lot of this stuff is a hands-on or sensory element but I am not one for sitting still I struggle sitting at the Dinner table for five minutes.

Cheers for reading X

10 misconceptions about depression

Hey readers,

I have lived with depression for years, though some days are better than others it is hard to live with. There is always that one person who makes a snap judgement when really they are quite ignorant and have no idea of what a battle it is to live with depression. 

Here are my top ten misconceptions about depression that I have met over the years.

1. A golden oldie, all you need to do is snap right out of it. yeah, if it was that simple to just click my fingers and it the depression would disappear. At my darkest episode, I was healthy, eating well, exercising a lot and going out but I still felt shit. I did everything to make these dreading feeling and fear go away with no avail.

2. Drugs don't work, well actually that may be so and it may be down to thoughts but then thoughts are in the mind. Drugs have worked successfully for some people including myself and I have seen evidence of it impacting my quality of life. It does not erase everything but it reduces the immediate effects and helps lift you up to help you think more clearly and logically.

3. Depression is attention-seeking, maybe so for some people but when I had depression, in the beginning, I was ashamed and didn't tell anyone and hid away in my deep dark world behind closed doors.

4. Depression means your weak, far from it as you are living will this illness and having to deal with all the extra work it brings. It is very trying and you really lose your motivation to just do anything. Getting through it is pure hard work more then anyone would know.

5. Depression is the same as sadness, wrong sadness is short-lived with feelings of low. Compare that to depression which sucks all your energy, self-destructive at times suicidal battle for long periods all day and night is a hell of a different story.

6. You don't have depression if you are happy, well I disagree as I can have spiked up and down and all over the place. Sometimes I don't know whether I am coming or going

7. Depression is a result of stressful events, well that can be the case in some situations as we can't rule out the environmental factors. But you have to hear in mind that hormones, brain activity and genes also play a role in depression.

8. It's not really an illness, there has been evidence showing differences between areas of the brain that have less activity in contrast with brains of non-depressives.

9. It's all in the mind, sometimes yes but like point 6 there many factors that can not be ruled at as well when debating about where depression comes from.

10.  Talking about it only makes it worse, yes it can stir up bad emotions but it can help some people talk about feelings can help bring stuff to the surface and work through the emotions attached to issues. What you have to bear in mind is we are all different and what works for one does not necessarily work for another.

Cheers for reading X