5 Ways to stop over apologising.

Hey readers, 

I think it is a British problem where I myself often apologise even though I have done nothing wrong. It is like I am in autopilot and I want to keep the peace even though the other person doesn't care, it's hard-wired in my head. So, trying to learn how to get out of this habit which I have been doing for a number of years I have got some ideas on trying to overcome this problem. I thought I would share them as someone else may find this useful if they are in the same boat as me with over apologising. 

1. Pause.

When you feel the need to apologise for a good habit to get into is passing before you apologise. Allowing yourself time to think before acting can maybe kick in other ideas and make you think whether apologising is worthwhile. 

2. Triggers. 

Sometimes, it is good to reflect and think why you feel the need to apologise, is it because you have anxiety and you are worried about what people think? or you don't like confrontation. A task you can do is write out some situations where you feel you apologise and instead write out a different outcome such as, instead of saying, sorry you could swap it with can you please help me understand better? This allows you to communicate and be direct but being assertive with your words.

3. Silence. 

I think one of the reasons that I feel the need to apologise is because of that awkward silence when you really not sure what to do after an incident. I have learned to embrace the silence and yes at times it is uncomfortable but pushing myself in the comfort zone teaches me to accept and stand tall. 

4. Swap. 

Often we say sorry when someone gives us a compliment but instead of brushing that compliment under the carpet accepting it and saying thank you is a much better way of dealing with the situation, You are expressing gratitude and it is ok to be happy when something good is talked about you, your not big headed but allowing the compliment to happen and taking it on board.

5. Empathy. 

Instead of opting to say sorry for a response to show empathy why not swap with an empathetic response because it is giving the person the feeling that you want to understand. You could say something like, 'that sounds really difficult for you'. Not only does it give the individual sense that you are listening but it allows the conversation to be opened up and explored more instead of sorry which is a closed off reply to a conversation. 

5. Feedback. 

It can be convenient to just apologise in a situation but this can give you low self-esteem or make you feel anxious. It is far better if you ask for feedback from the person such as, 'can you tell me a way I can make this situation better?' this then can make you feel more positive and take control over the situation as you are coming with ideas to improve and wanting to change. 

Have you overcome over apologising? What ways help you to stop saying sorry? Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below. 

Cheers for reading X 

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10 thoughts whilst standing in the queue.

Hey readers,

I am terribly British as I love a good moan and I have a hatred for queues.

So here are some of my thoughts that have entered my mind whilst moving my feet about and admiring the sweet section near the tills in a massive queue.

1) How dare anyone other than I be here. They have a f*cking check.

2) Seriously, I have just lost half an hour of my life when I could be spending that time at home stalking on Facebook.

3) Why did I just not simply use Amazon, FFS!

4) Should I or should I not buy some chocolate when I reach the till.

5) Life sucks.

6) At least while I am here I don't need to bother with housework or anyone nagging at me. I can just get sore feet from standing around doing sweet F.A.

7) Do I really need this stuff, yes, of course, my life depends on having some cheap emoji socks to brighten my mood?

8) I curse my husband, how dare he request me to buy stuff from the shop. He will pay, mwahahahahaha.

9) Why the f*ck is there no signal, I am so not shopping in Sainsbury's anymore, take that!

10) OMG, I can not believe this shop does not have WiFi. Don't you know it is a human right and now I am cut from human existence even though I am surrounded by people? It is SO totally different? I need to know what is going on in the social world, what coffee people are photographing or the brilliant cat gifs that are emerging on the web.

 I think I may need to go to the hospital as my arm feels cut off from not accessing the internet for 20 minutes, I am getting serious bad withdrawals.

Cheers for reading X

Poundland are selling a £5 portable fold up BBQ.

Hey readers,

We have had lovely sunshine this week and it is getting me thinking about barbecues.

Is there anything better than eating out alfresco then having a barbecue where you can cook last outside and enjoy the sunshine.

Who doesn't love a bargain and where better to find a hot deal then at your local Poundland shop. The portable barbecue will be available on the 22nd of April so keep your eyes peeled as it will be located in the outdoor section on Poundland.

With the design of the portable barbeque being lightweight and folding down will make it much easier to transport a barbecue anywhere that is allowed. 

The barbecue is easy to fold-up and carries with you out and about on days out or even if you are going away on holiday. 

The even better news is that this portable barbecue only cost £5 which is a steal of a deal. This portable barbecue is the cheapest amongst the major retailers in the UK. It will be available to buy during spring and summer perfect if you want to take with you and head to the beach. 

 The barbecue comes in the size of 30cm x26.5cm x 30cm and you can see what the portable barbecue looks like below to give you an idea. 

What is your opinion on Poundland's new portable BBQ? Is it something you are going to buy and use this spring/summer? Love to hear your thoughts below. 

Cheers for reading X

Kindle vs Books

Hey readers, 

Today I shall be looking at the benefits of the Kindle and books as both I believe have benefits. Although each one has it's own benefits however this is dependant on what you are looking for. So, if you're still looking for which one you should go for then check out my points on each below. 

Kindle. 

There are many different types of e-readers you can choose from in the shops. Nowadays a lot of e-readers are lightweight so you can pop them in your bag when you're traveling out and about making it much better than lugging a heavy book around. 

Download. 

When looking for a book on the e-reader it's so easy to find a book that you want and download it really quickly. There is so much choice out there and it doesn't take much time at all to find a book that you looking for. Not to mention that you can download a book in the comfort of your own home 24 hours 7 days a week whenever you feel like it as the internet is not closed, unlike the shops which are closed at certain times. 

Queues. 

When you're out and say in a queue or waiting for something and you have a spare minute you can just easily pull out the e-reader and have a read whilst waiting. 

Dictionary. 

When you're reading an e-book and you come across a new word that you want to find out what that means it's so easy to just highlight the word and it automatically comes up with a definition. This is because there is a dictionary embedded into the reader and furthermore options to click on the link to find out more detail about the word is available. 

Trees. 

With the Kindle being a digital format that means fewer trees are being cut down to use paper to use for books. So it is much more environmentally friendly when using readers. 

Books

Tangible. 

With a book, you get that tangible feeling of holding a book feeling it and smelling it whilst knowing it has history behind it. 

Distraction.

Having books in a physical format means that you are less likely to get distracted because it's not attached to the internet and also reading a book stops you from staring at a screen especially late at night can interpret your sleep. 

Stolen. 

You know your book is safe because fewer people are likely to want to pinch a book as opposed to if you left your e-reader on your car seat they're more likely to want to go grab it as it is seen to be more valuable.  

Health.

Physical books are better for your health because there are less destructive when it comes to saying going to bed at night you're more likely to read and go to sleep well but then gets distracted again.

Marginalia. 

With a book, there is a place where you can write your notes and ideas down which you can't do with an e-reader. 

Do you usually use an e-reader or book? What's your favorite? I love to hear your comments below.

Cheers for reading x

Baileys eggsquisite Easter eggs

Hey readers,

Easter is soon upon us next month and I am getting eggcited to feast my eyes on the chocolate eggs. 

This year is a big time for Easter as there is so much choice to have when it comes to eggs from cheese ones to the beauty filled eggs that you definitely won't be disappointed with the change of getting a bad egg this Easter. 

Hands up who loves Baileys ***hiya*** well nothing has excited me more than to know that Baileys have brought out their chocolate flavoured Easter eggs that were introduced last year as they were clearly a success hence why they are returning this Eater (2019). 

If you are Baileys fan then you're going love the new flavour of salted caramel that sums up chocolate perfect and ticks all the boxes for any chocolate lover out there. 

The Baileys egg is a milk chocolate hollow egg laced with crunchy caramel salted pieces. If that is not enough to fill you with joy then there is also six separate chocolates includes. he Original Irish Cream Liqueur milk chocolate truffles with a hint of crème caramel.

Bear in mind that the little chocolates are dark chocolate and also to give some luxury are covered in glitter. The chocolate egg weighs 275g which is a whopping size egg. 

Alternatively, Baileys has also brought out a coffee flavoured Bailey's Easter egg which is contained with glittery gold coffee beans, and six coffee chocolate truffles for the coffee lovers out there.

You can pick up the Baileys Easter eggs in most supermarkets for £10 now so go check it out! 

Bring on the Easter count down!

Have you tried Bailey's easter egg? What are your thoughts of the are Bailey's easter egg? love to hear your tohughts in the comments below. 

Cheers for reading X 

50 blog ideas.

Hey readers 

Sometimes it can be hard to come up with content for your blog so this post will come in handy if you're looking for ideas. I have come up with 50 brilliant blog ideas for you to get your creative juices flowing.

1. What is in your bag. 

2. Day in the life. 

3. Guest post. 

4. Goal setting. 

5. Things to do on a rainy day. 

6. Decorating ideas for Easter. 

7. DIY bargains. 

8. Crafts for Easter. 

9. Fashion trends. 

10. Fitness challenges. 

11. Easter recipes. 

12. Spring clean ideas. 

13. Cleaning hacks. 

14. Easy meal preps. 

15. Free activities in the area that you live. 

16. Morning routine. 

17. Evening routine. 

18. No spend challenge and results. 

19. Why spring is a good season. 

20.Why social is bad/good. 

21. The best websites on the Internet. 

22. Blog post ideas. 

23. Beginners guide to...

24. Vlog. 

25 Things that scare you. 

26. Gardening plans / tips /ideas. 

27. Last minute spring break deals. 

28. Go for a walk and take pictures. 

29. Spring bucket list. 

30. Your favourite spring activities. 

31. Tips for staying positive. 

32. Money saving tips. 

33. Write a short story. 

34. What are your goals. 

35. What are your favourite blogs. 

36. Things to do when bored. 

37. What went well for you last month. 

38. Ways to come adversity. 

39. Things to be grateful for. 

 40. Things to be happy about. 

41. Things to be passionate about. 

42. Rant. 

43. Communication tips. 

44. Thoughts on Brexit. 

45. How to get rid of a cold. 

46. Remedies for anxiety. 

47. 10 facts about me. 

48. How to start a blog. 

49. How to use Pinterest. 

50.  A letter to someone or a company. 

Is there anything of the list that at I have missed but think would make a great blog post? Love to hear your comments below. 

Cheers for reading X